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18 years ago
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Perfect anime/manga scenario...you know, you are the male lead and you are so nice to everyone and such...but sometimes in turn you are actually hurting people because they have a crush on you but you are just being nice to them.

Actually, the sad part of this would be, this isn't always an anime or manga scenario. It could be true. Not being a bit overly self boasting here, but I do admit, I'm one of those guys who are just by nature, really nice to people. I don't do anything to try to hurt anyone and in general, if possible, help them in any need without them asking. Lucky part of this is, to my knowledge, no girls like me yet. (For better or for worse)

But, this isn't a topic about me, really. It's more about the subject. Would you (be it male or female) like to have a significant other who is nice to other people? To the point where, sometimes it feels like he or she is treating you the same way he or she treats other people just because he's nice? Or heck, are you one of those people who are like that? Or past experience with significant other who is like that? Share your thoughts here.


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... its "the nice guy" syndrome....
girls would usually rather have nice guys as male friends, so we can keep them around us for a long time...


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Uh, to be honest, I'm not attracted to people who are nice to everyone. I rather go for the shy type/quiet type/cold type. Yeah, as Moritana said, the 'nice guys' are rather friends to me. When someone is being too nice, I never know are they for real or are they just pretending. It's not worth it in the end, imho.


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Post #96446 - Reply To (#96444) by Layhe
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Quote from Layhe

Uh, to be honest, I'm not attracted to people who are nice to everyone. I rather go for the shy type/quiet type/cold type. Yeah, as Moritana said, the 'nice guys' are rather friends to me.

but there are guys who are shy/quiet and nice. not to boast or anything but i can say that i probably belong in this category. im too nice for my own good that sumtimes i wonder that it would be better for me to be a jerk lol


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18 years ago
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Nice guys are usually really bothersome...sooner or later, their attitude starts to piss people off. Come one, who would have to always compare himself to an angel?
And when someone tries to get closer to them and gets rejected, he usually can't even get the real reason for it.
You can't even be sure if he/she really likes you :/ after a while, you usually stop ttrust that nice person.
A nice guy that is also something "more"...well, that's a different case.

Guys, look for a perfect mix of good and bad 😛


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Quote from Layhe

Uh, to be honest, I'm not attracted to people who are nice to everyone. I rather go for the shy type/quiet type/cold type. Yeah, as Moritana said, the 'nice guys' are rather friends to me.

but there are guys who are shy/quiet and nice. not to boast or anything but i can say that i probably belong in this category. im too nice for my own good that sumtimes i wonder that it would be better for me to be a jerk lol

Yeah, exactly - nice. Not too nice. Being too nice isn't wise, imo. People have to be at least a bit egoistical in those times.


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I choose if I want to be nice and show no
interest in most people at all, thus I do not
scar anyone if not with ignorance.
I was born a nice guy, but it took me
nowhere.


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I guess the problem with being nice guy is that people in this world judge other too much...and think everyone's plotting something or another against them. Like, as someone said above. "If they are too nice, you don't know when they are pretending" (or to that effect.)

I don't know guys, I don't like going against my impulse, and acting on impulse means I am nice to people. Sucks to be me?


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18 years ago
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what... I find being nice extremely painful 🤣 I don't find it that painful if somebody else is nice....

ah well.. My friends are not nice 😀 I haven't dealt with this nice guy thing yet... (where I feel he treats me the same as others..? Then we wouldn't be dating in the first place...)

And I don't think they're bad...?? They're real gentlemen! They um.... pay for dinners? 🤣 Just don't lost too much money, Nis...


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If everyone's nice then there shouldn't be a thing as "too nice." It's sad that being too nice is seen as something negative or the person is taken advantage of by others... >_> I can too idealistic sometimes.

I don't know if I'm too nice or not, I'm just myself? I'm pretty polite to strangers though.


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to be honest as well... i'm not attracted to nice guys.. i'm attracted to cute, quiet guys who somehow exude the "i dont want to talk to u" aura.. haha


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er... am I mixing up nice with polite 🤢

what the heck is "too nice"... so if I ask somebody to write my essay, and that person does it, that's way too nice? =D If I do something back in return, then we're even!


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what the heck is "too nice"... so if I ask somebody to write my essay, and that person does it, that's way too nice? =D If I do something back in return, then we're even!

I think that person is sketchy, or a tool. A nice person would help with the essay and proofread it without asking anything in return... I think that counts as a nice person, right?


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what the heck is "too nice"... so if I ask somebody to write my essay, and that person does it, that's way too nice? =D If I do something back in return, then we're even!

I think that person is sketchy, or a tool. A nice person would help with the essay and proofread it without asking anything in return... I think that counts as a nice person, right?

I do that and I am evil. o_o
Does that make me incomplete? D:


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Are you evil? 🤣 You're mean to some people coughmecough

But you write other people's essay? Why didn't tell me that before? Write my essay! T_T j/k j/k


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