Yes, but that's because you're only looking at it from the female perspective.

See my Chris Rock quote. Given the opportunity most of your male friends would sleep with you.

Men generally don't really want to be friends with women, other men are much better suited for that. And unless you're hideously unattractive, the sexual attaction will always be there.

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Men and women can't be just friends, the sexual attraction always gets in the way.

Perhaps from a male perspective.

I'm a girl and I have many, many male friends who are just that - friends.

Yes, the male perspective was exactly my point. Women might THINK they're "just friends" but to men there's really no such thing as being "just friends" with a woman.

That´s why in the long run those friendships almost never work.

ooooo double posts!!
anyway, i think age matters as well.
a_nevel, how old are u?

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Did no-one see 'When Harry met Sally"?

Men and women can't be just friends, the sexual attraction always gets in the way.

Chris Rock once said: 'Men don't have female friends, they only have women they haven't slept with...yet.

i cant really agree with that.. 98% of my friends r men.... they consider me their baby sister, or comrade.... so male-female friendship is sooo possible for me.

so they say...
and maybe it's true, but if there is a chance of success they might give it a go.
A friend of mine was inlove with some girl, but she saw him as just a friend, and thought he thought the same of her, the friggin slept 2 or 3 times in the same bed (cause she couldn't go home ) so it was just natural that he couldn't hold it in anylonger and confessed his love. She didn't want to have anything more than friendship, but after a bit of persuation she agreed to go out with him. They went out with each other for 2 years then broke up. They aren't friends anymore, but if being friends with one of them being in love is right i wonder...
So the only way that a man+ woman friendship might work is if the woman/girl doesn't give the man/boy any chances or hopes, and both of them are honest, cause you can even be friends with someone who loves you.

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I'm a girl and I have many, many male friends who are just that - friends. 🤣 what a destructive statement^^

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Yes, but that's because you're only looking at it from the female perspective.

See my Chris Rock quote. Given the opportunity most of your male friends would sleep with you.

Men generally don't really want to be friends with women, other men are much better suited for that. And unless you're hideously unattractive, the sexual attaction will always be there.

This is , of course, bull sh*t. I don't really see the need to argue the point. I am sure for some men it is that way, but by no means a standard.

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Yes, but that's because you're only looking at it from the female perspective.

See my Chris Rock quote. Given the opportunity most of your male friends would sleep with you.

Men generally don't really want to be friends with women, other men are much better suited for that. And unless you're hideously unattractive, the sexual attaction will always be there.

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Men and women can't be just friends, the sexual attraction always gets in the way.

Perhaps from a male perspective.

I'm a girl and I have many, many male friends who are just that - friends.

Yes, the male perspective was exactly my point. Women might THINK they're "just friends" but to men there's really no such thing as being "just friends" with a woman.

That´s why in the long run those friendships almost never work.

I believe that even from a man's perspective it is possible
to have female friends that he does not even want to sleep with.
Think about a brother and a sister. They can be friends and that
still does not mean that the guy wants to sleep with his sister, which
still is not impossible, but still very unlikely.

I've never even been in a situation, where I start to feel something for one of my friends. Probably because my definition of a friend is different than yours - I consider a friend, for example, a guy I've been close with for over 17 years. For some of you, It's longer then you live.
After so many years, there is zero attraction between people. Mams is right, saying that there are men who don't want to sleep with their female friends. For really good friends it's quite normal.

Well, some of so called "friends" I know for 1, maybe 2 years, often tell me that they have feelings for me. And it's a pain. I always start to wonder, if they keep me company cause they like me as a human being, or if they just want to get close to me to make me their girlfriend. It sux 🤢

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@ Indreju maybe both^.-

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Yes, but that's because you're only looking at it from the female perspective.

See my Chris Rock quote. Given the opportunity most of your male friends would sleep with you.

Men generally don't really want to be friends with women, other men are much better suited for that. And unless you're hideously unattractive, the sexual attaction will always be there.

This is , of course, bull sh*t. I don't really see the need to argue the point. I am sure for some men it is that way, but by no means a standard.

true, i really don't like other men, i get along with most of them, but I only talk with very few of them, cause the topics the chat about are often boring (especially soccer) chatting with women makes much more fun for me since their topics are funny, most girls are glibber then men, they're more fun to go to amusement parks with, they're scary when drunk but not dangerous, you can flirt with them, and so on, I've got quite a few female friends, just that they aren't "just friends". 😁

being friends with a girl without the danger that the friendship towards her turns into love is not possible and sooner or later there will be a time when you feel like doing something more then what normal friends would do, whether you do it or not doesn't matter, but sexuality always plays a role between a man and a woman, even if they are friends, being just friends without feeling is impossible

btw screw this topic, It totally confused my feelings 😕 😕
You shouldn't think too much about life and things like friendship, just let things happen, thinking too much often makes things too complicated, in this case a friendship between man and woman, life is more fun if you don't think too much

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I believe that even from a man's perspective it is possible
to have female friends that he does not even want to sleep with.
Think about a brother and a sister. They can be friends and that
still does not mean that the guy wants to sleep with his sister, which
still is not impossible, but still very unlikely.

friendship between siblings is something else

I'm a girl and have never looked at any guy with any real desire to date them initially. After meeting and getting to know him, yes. But I'm very un-fickle, so I will like one guy for years, as I have in high school right now these past few years. I may be intrigued by a guy, but will never want to date him on first sight.

the guy i like has never been my friend, and i will never like one of my guy-friends....... that might be the reason why i could never pluck the guy i like......i never have the intention to come up and befriends him, 'cause i always try to not look at/ignore him when i see the dude.....unfortunately, i find myself glancing to him sometimes, which is pathetic, so i really hate this feeling right now........anyhoo, i'm trying to save my first love for a person who i'd like because of his personality instead of his looks 🤢

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oh no... I'm different from what everyone says. It takes me a short time to know that we're "just friends".... like the first day we meet. If his personality (and the things he says) doesn't click with mine, then we're "just friends (or even just classmates), so bye"

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I'm not sure.....well, I'll tell you a story, certain member(cough, Dark_Sage Cough), whom I never met before, asked me to be his/her 'special friend'

You broke my heart, babe. ;_;

What kind of crap is, "Yes, Dark_Sage I am sexually attracted to you, but I'm not ready for that serious of a relationship yet. We're still friends right?" ??!!?!?

I think my eyes are melting. 🤣
This should be hidden before the yaoi fans
flood in! @_@

🤣 How did I miss this one?

Anyway, I think you can stay "just friends" forever. I don't think it's true that you can never have a platonic relationship with the opposite sex. I mean, we're not all motivated by lust.

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how come all my jerky friends ALWAYS, ALWAYS categorize me as a friend?! its not like im not cute, ive been hit on by older guys tons of times before.
but my classmates see me as a fellow guy...
ill abuse this thread to ask you neutral ppl, WHY?

You want a jerk boyfriend? You should whore yourself out some more then. Good luck.

sigh, there are cute jerks, the funny ones, that r good bf material...
i likr them cuz i can control them, most of the time.... but all those i know end up as my friends....
my type is actually cte funny guys, but i can be attracted to jerks easily, cuz somehow they r eithr nice to me(the older ones who see me as a kid sister) or act like im one of them guys (my classmates. guy talk is flowing out of my ears already)...
its not that i dont like how it is now, but id really like to find a bf before ill turn into a 45 yo bf-less virgin.....

p.s: dark sage, i sorta categorized you with ares now. sorry.

i HATE how girls do this or this state of mind becuase it puts other guys in really vulnerable situations scanario:bob likes tina tina only dates self consumed assholes at heart bob is a good guy but the only way he will ever get tinas attention is if he throws this perrenial shroud over his head in the attempt to fool everyone around him and in result getting the girl
That isnt love and thats not romance it artificial lust and i puts people with genuine feeling in a rvolving world of shit im not a good guy im a motherfucking asshole but if this really his the immediate norm then we are some masochistic fucks

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Yes, the male perspective was exactly my point. Women might THINK they're "just friends" but to men there's really no such thing as being "just friends" with a woman.

That´s why in the long run those friendships almost never work.

I definately disagree. I'm male and I know a ton of girls that I consider at the "just friends" level. There are 3 categories of girls that I will never ever have any feelings towards:

1. The girls I consider to be like my little sister. As soon as a girl hits this category, as far as I'm considered, we're blood related.

2. Girlfriends of friends. I know that some guys have the whole "it's not my fault if I'm better than her boyfriend" mentality but I just can't think that way. It's not even a matter of thinking; as soon as a girl is romantically involved with one of my friends, even the base biological feelings of attraction just completely disappear.

3. Girls who are "fuggly". I'd like to think that I'm not shallow (I don't consider the girl I like right now very physically attractive. I like her because she's firm in her beliefs, has a sense of humor, is extremely intelligent, and just fun to be with) but if I don't feel any physical attraction, its pretty impossible to get into a relationship.

But I think that we're all misinterpreting the orignial poster. I think that he/she wants to know WHEN the point of no return is. For me, its about a week. Very rarely will I suddenly develop feelings for a girl that I've known for years.

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But I think that we're all misinterpreting the orignial poster. I think that he/she wants to know WHEN the point of no return is.

Yeah, basically.

I didn't think I was being all that cryptic in my OP. Thanks for clearing it up.

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men r jerks

You know, making a judgement call like that on over half the world's population is a bit unfair, don't you think?

Just because thats the only type of guy you've ever met doesn't meant thats all that exists. I speak out on this because I personally don't feel I am a jerk.

Heck, my last girlfriend and I only broke up because we were both studying for college at the time, and she had plans to go to a College thousands of miles away. Even after all that we're still friends, though.

Personally, I don't think I could see any woman in a romantic light if we weren't friends first.

Friends you can stand to be around for long periods of time. If I never feel that, then I don't think the person is right for me.

Also, whomever I wind up with has to have the same hobbies as I. Preferably a female Otaku. That would be wonderful. 😀

As for how long it takes before I consider someone just a Friend, I'm not sure. I look at matters of the heart in an optimistic light, so I try to keep my mind of things such as "just friends".

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