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Btw. There are more in the "just friends" category. But, then again, I'm a flirt, so it's hard to tell......

And yes, I know I flirt a lot. It's just a habit now. It's not like I really mean it all the time...

;; I have a friend who's a big flirt and it's not fair~ ;; guys like her, but she doesn't like them, but she just tugs the chain because she likes the attention (her self esteem's a little low). And it causes trouble for her current boyfriend who does not like her flirting with other guys T_T

And for me, when I meet a guy, it's usually falls into two categories: I think they're cute and develop a mini-crush on them that prevents me from socializing with them without getting too nervous and being incoherent. Or I don't think them of anything special, therefore I can talk to them comfortably and freely and more probably, this is the type of person I end up seriously considering a relationship with.

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And for me, when I meet a guy, it's usually falls into two categories: I think they're cute and develop a mini-crush on them that prevents me from socializing with them without getting too nervous and being incoherent. Or I don't think them of anything special, therefore I can talk to them comfortably and freely and more probably, this is the type of person I end up seriously considering a relationship with.

wow, i feel almost exactly this way too. Although with reversed gender (i'm a guy). If i were to see a girl i didn't know, she'd immidiately be put into one of two categories.

1. attractive - i'll feel nervous and won't be able to talk well. i'm probably thinking dirty thoughts..
2. not inititally attractive - i'll feel neutral or calm, and after speaking would put them on a scale of how much i would like to be friends/how much i get on with them. (this state varies a lot, from people i dont know well, to closer friends)

I'm a truely confusing individual, i only usually get sexual attractions to people i don't know (seen them from a distance or such), who look attractive to me. Once they get to know me and become friends i stop feeling attractions.

however i'm aware that this is naive and has a very low chance to lead to a sucessful relationship as it is not based on personality (but thats how my brain works anyway). Any girls who fit into the second category, i can talk to normally and have a higher chance to date properly... however ....

if a girl grows deeper into the 'friendship' category, and i enjoy talking to her/trust her, i feel calm/relaxed and non-sexually attracted (even if she looks pretty i don't get any sexual desire, she is FIRMLY into the 'friend' category...)

in fact i think i'm missing the 'dating' or 'romance' area from my mind... it literally doesnt exist. Either i get sexual feelings, which are lust driven and start and end rapidly - Or i see them as just a friend and nothing more. i'm missing the middle ground 'dating' stage completely 😕

unless dating is a lead up to sex? someone tell me 😀 because its either 'i want sex with this person' or 'i want them as a friend'. no middleground.

As for the original topic: what time do i consider them just friends? i don't know, almost everyone i meet who i like becomes a friend or 'aquaintance'. But what i do think personally is: i make judgements pretty quickly... if i don't find someone sexually attractive within a few seconds (literally) then i probably never will.

but the reverse can happen, i can go off people who i once found attractive. Especially if i find character traits i dislike.

Lastly about the quote which said about guys can't be friends with a girl without wanting sex with her - get real 😛 im sure some guys are this way.. but i'm not, i don't get lust for most girls. what about ones you find 'ugly', or who are too deep into the friend category?

whoa sorry! this post is massive.

I have a friend and he really likes me (He's the one who's made all the moves). Thing is, I only consider him as only a friend. I've told him this a couple of times already, but I really can't think of him as someone I actually like. And I've thought about it a lot, but I only like him as a friend. I'm stuck in those kind of situation where: 1- guy likes you a lot, 2- friends want you to date him and 3- I just don't like him like that. I hate those kind of situations.

Female.
Right away.
Because most of my friend population are girls.
Then again, I have guy friends but they're just friends plus they're idiots.
Life's funny like that. 😳

I was going over all the guys I know (i'm female) and trying to determine where the 'just friends' bit comes in. unfortunately I couldn't think of anyone who I am just friends with. I mean, I hate a lot of my friends. Want to smother them in their sleep kind of hating. then I remembered a year and a half ago when my friend asked me out. I had only known him for 2 and a half months at that point. I immediately rejected him and couldn't figure out quite why, normally the reason is 'you are annoying and I don't want to have to kill you', so I suppose that he could be someone who I am just friends with. if that is indeed the case then I would hazard the guess that it was maybe 3 weeks before he got to that place. He integrated himself into the circle that I call "my girlfriends" and while he doesn't act feminine he definitely does not act manly so that definitely didn't help.

In general though if any of my guy friends that don't drive me completely batty asked me out I would probably say yes. all 3 of them. how long till i know if someone will drive me batty? 1.5 weeks although maturation can reverse this distinction. even the ones I have known since high school (no guy friends from before high school).

oh and my ruminations on the 'just friend' syndrome completely leaves out guys with girlfriends. Even if I am not friends with the girl, I tend to distance myself from couples.

however I would totally say that I saw someone as only a friend so as not to explain that I am usually irritated with them in some way. people don't take that well sometimes. 🤣

sigh i think the clarity of my posts is decreasing exponentially. 🙁

Sorry for being incoherent

I'm a girl and I'm not sure if I'd classify anyone as 'just a friend' forever. I might change my mind about someone.

I go away and suddenly the spammers are the mods. Okay, I can adjust to that, but... Gorath?! And what's up with Mam's not being the top poster?

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i hate this just friends things.. cause i never leave it at just friends 😛

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I'm a girl and I'm not sure if I'd classify anyone as 'just a friend' forever. I might change my mind about someone.

Seconded. Though I know too much about my one close male friend who I've known for 4 years or so then to ever date him. Ignorance is bliss.

Forever lurking...

Just friends...

Don't be ridiculous.

As long as two "friends" have needs and desires, then there will be some sort of attraction... no matter how minuscule.

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I've learned my lesson. I'm never going out with a close friend, ever, especially if we have lots of common friends too. 😔

im a girl and i usually categorize certain guys as 'just friends' right away because im not really interested. its a loose cetegory though, it can change.

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I've learned my lesson. I'm never going out with a close friend, ever, especially if we have lots of common friends too. 😔

Ouch. 🤣

Never do that... o__o
Unless you're sure you aren't going to break up.

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Quote from amaranthine

I've learned my lesson. I'm never going out with a close friend, ever, especially if we have lots of common friends too. 😔

Ouch. 🤣

Never do that... o__o
Unless you're sure you aren't going to break up.

You're lauhing! How mean O_O

Hm, well at the beginning of each relationship, you never think about breaking up.

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Quote from amaranthine

I've learned my lesson. I'm never going out with a close friend, ever, especially if we have lots of common friends too. 😔

Ouch. 🤣

Never do that... o__o
Unless you're sure you aren't going to break up.

You're lauhing! How mean O_O

Hm, well at the beginning of each relationship, you never think about breaking up.

Oh I do...that must be why I've only entered one relationship so far... 🤣

To see everything from the perspective of eternity

lol, I have a feeling you would~

Hm, so Aurey's an exemption to the rule, but most people don't think about it at the beginning of their relationship!