It depends...these days i find it hard to become close friends with anyone, but i think it s easier to make friends with guys though. In fact , i have less female friends than males, guess that is normal. The relationship with girls is more complicated. As i can remember when a girl wanted our friendship to get further, i ruined the mood completely by telling her how big the linear magnification of an electron microscope can be, lol and i don't regret talking with her about it, the conversation changed into a interesting discussion (i don't know if she forgot about it yet). And that is why recently girls only come to me to ask about mathematics and physics problems though (sometimes) i still like teasing them. I think i have much time to play around and learn what i need for my life so i don't get serious in almost any relationship with girls ( however we will never know when unexpected things may happen).Almost everyone i know is 'friends" and none is "best friends",rather they are "just friends".

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When I meet the opposite gender, no matter how good looking they are, they will immediately be thrown in the "just friends" pile. Then I will evaluate them, and see if I like them enough, and place them in the "close friend" or "acquaintance" pile. I don't even want to think about boyfriends right now. So that's out. o;

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How long does it take for you to consider someone you know as "just friends"?

By that I mean, at what point do you determine you're not going to want to go out with them because the feelings of familiarity and being only friends have set in?

Also, please note your gender.

It has nothing to do with familiarity. Nor does it have anything to do with 'determining' you just want to be friends.

I'm not speaking for myself, but for all relationships. Attraction isn't something you determine. You may consciously become aware of whether or not you're attracted to someone, and interested in something more than being friends, but you don't choose the attraction. It occurs within the first few minutes of interacting with someone.After that, the attraction can grow, or dwindle until it dies. If it dies altogether, it's very unlikely that it will rekindle. At that point the only option is to be 'just friends'. Oh, or you get filed under 'husband material'.

If you find yourself attracted to a girl that has no attraction for you - and you've known her long enough that that won't change - then I suggest moving on. There are plenty of women out there. And even if you did manage to do everything just right in order to rekindle that attraction... It just isn't worth the effort.

I'm male.

I don't rule anyone out unless they're married. Then they're just friends. 🤣

This "just friends" thing sounds like an excuse. It probably means that the person doesn't really like you as a friend either. If any of my close friends wanted to go out with me, I wouldn't say no even if I had never thought of them that way before. If I looked hard enough, I could find something attractive about them. This is not to say that it would necessarily work out, but I would still give it a try.

I'm female.

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(Female here)
Since I pretty much fall in love with every guy. *Note- it's not a great love, more like small puppy love.
I look for flaws in the guy, and see what about him I can't deal with. (I guess I look for deal breakers for when looking for someone to marry. O.o ) After said flaw is found I declare him in my mind forever friendzoned. If I find flaws I can deal with then I'm in trouble. (A deeper love is when you accept that person flaws and all).

-Sidenote: I fell in love with every guy because I always see such good qualities in someone, reasons why someone would fall in love with that person. Its never love at first sight, because I'm not really attracted to most men.

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Male.

Also, quite the necro bump.

If you don't want to get friendzoned, you should make the tension sexual to begin with. If you set up another mood and don't fix it ASAP, it will stay that way and you will eventually be stuck in that setting. Some distance might change things however, as I've been friends with a girl who has taken an interest in me after we've been strictly friends after she started dating my friend (we were friends before, but I didn't really point anything perverted at her or anything that could rustle my friend's jimmies and I was fine with that, as I also stopped seeing her as anything but my friend due to that), then gotten some space between us with that relationship stuff, but for some weird reason dumbed him to pursue me after I came back to her life as a friend, though I had to say no, as I already felt that were were by then, just friends and I don't really feel okay going for someone else's love.

(Female) I don't think I've ever experienced the phenomenon of not wanting to date a guy just because I've known him for too long.

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Since I pretty much fall in love with every guy.

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I'm not really attracted to most men.

Wait, what?

Oh sorry if that was confusing. I fall for every guy based on there personality, not looks. So I'm not attracted to most men translates to I don't have those "OMG your hot" thoughts, as there's only a certain look that would make me think that. Everything else lookswise is "Oh your okay" (and that's the best any guy gets, expect for those select few).

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Also, quite the necro bump. 🤣 I've been doing a lot of those. Mostly because I run into an interesting topic during a search for a topic I want to make.

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