i'm fifteen ,but i had to go through things people my age shouldnt be going through...and now i feel a little lost
i'm not depressed but im not happy either,im feeling..empty?
and i'll be graduating next year,but i feel like things are going too fast i cant keep up(everyone around me is older,all my friends are 17+)
i have to make huge decisions about my future right now...i feel out of place
and
about relationships...
im always too afraid and end up rejecting the person even if i like him

im very confused right now

so give me your best advice,or atleast something important you learned from your experience,doesnt have to be relevant to wat i said,it can be about anything

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Life is tough.

I...actually hate it when people make threads like this on the internet.

You should try using proper grammar and punctuation.
Experiment with relationships. It's not like you're getting married any time soon.

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I...actually hate it when people make threads like this on the internet.

I completely agree.

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And you will murder someone one day, pika. If you're my daughter.

Never give up. Life is tough, and it plays hardball. Hang on to your beliefs like a dog with a bone - or a starving vampire to his prey. If you don't know exactly what you believe, find it out. Find something you enjoy doing, and do it - don't let anyone stop you.

There are times when you will miss what you never had. I wonder how you will find what you so desperately need.

We're in the same boat more or less. I'll be graduating soon too, this year, going to study comp. engineering which is difficult, and i'm always asking if I'll be alrite with that. And things are going really fast, where you're gonna have to be independent etc, and yeah, all of that sometimes gets to your head, and my best advice will be to just go at your own pace. Don't rush yourself into things, there is still a lot of time ahead, just enjoy each day, and don't think much of what's coming ahead , I like to go out with my friends and make memories, join clubs/sports and learning to play things i always wanted to do, it's pretty fun. And before i know it, it takes my time and i feel satisfied. so try doing all those things you always wanted to do but you never had the opportunity. I always wanted to play instruments and when i came here to the us, i got the chance to play the guitar and learn more about it. So be active and just enjoy your high school life. if you're not sure what to do regarding the future, in uni, you can always change the major. You're gonna be fine, and regarding love, you'll find the one, i mean you will meet a lot of people along the way, in uni as well. so just take it easy and enjoy the ride.

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Don't let yourself withdraw and feel self-pity, during those hard moments do something to distract yourself, like dance! 8'D
And then live on, day by day, until your future is so far along that your bad times are like some distant dream in another world~

Sounds like you're leading the teenagers life.

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You should try using proper grammar and punctuation.
Experiment with relationships. It's not like you're getting married any time soon.

im not a native speaker but im trying hard to improve my grammar

to make things a little more clear:
i've always wanted to become an artist,drawing is my passion
i have lots of drawing certificates
but now im waking up to reality and i recently realised that i cant pursue my dream(due to some reasons)
its like i had this map and i knew exactly where i wanted to be but suddenly i lost everything and im back to block one.

@YoakeNoHikari
its not just on the internet,we all need advices sometimes,what's wrong with asking for advice?

The best advice takes context into mind.

With that in mind, can you provide some context?

First off, how are you graduating at 15? Is it the country you live in, or did you skip a few grades?

Are you highly intelligent, and going to a high-end university? Away from friends?

What has made you realized you can't pursue a career in art? Was it a financial realization?

More info, please.

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The best advice takes context into mind.

With that in mind, can you provide some context?

First off, how are you graduating at 15? Is it the country you live in, or did you skip a few grades?

Are you highly intelligent, and going to a high-end university? Away from friends?

What has made you realized you can't pursue a career in art? Was it a financial realization?

More info, please.

More info will be very helpful.

I can sympathize with your realization of not being ale to pursue your dream, and that you entire plan fell apart. My only advice is tat you take time to gather yourself, collect the pieces, and formulate a new plan. Even if you cannot pursue your interests roght now, that does not mean ou have to give up on them. Put them on the backburner for a while, but keep the dream alive, while you focus on making sure that someday you can focus on your dream 🙂

Edit - @YoakeNoHikari, @Pikapu - you are entitled to your opinion, but please keep in mind that no one is forcing you to read topics/threads you don't like. If you hate them, please ignore them, and desist from making remarks that might hurt somebody.

There are times when you will miss what you never had. I wonder how you will find what you so desperately need.

I see.

You want the internet to be your safe place, a place where you can pour out your emotions with no chance of rebuttal or derision?

You wish to seek solace in anonymity while pouring out the things that trouble you most deeply?

I don't understand.

I don't understand at all.

Emotions are not something that you show to random strangers. You should not trust that which you do not know. Perhaps, the members of this certain community are caring, kind people.

Perhaps not.

In the end, 'tis your own choice. Rather, would you like an objective view on your life?

I don't understand. Life is subjective. Life is lived the way you live it. Not the way someone else lives it.

As for ignoring threads: I hate your viewpoint. Should I not listen to it when I argue with you?

You need to relax and stop living in the future.
You had one dream and now that it's ended just dream another.
And trust me, it seems like ALL teens had to go through what most teens supposedly shouldn't have to go through.

You're young, you're not the only one, and you have a lot of time.
It's best to try as many things instead of forcefully limiting yourself.
There is no just single way, even if you feel lost and empty right now,
a solution can always be found, it's just up to you whether you actually
DO something about it instead of sitting down doing nothing but pondering.

Btw, it's hard to give advice when you have to keep hiding information. How can anyone give proper advice with bits and scraps?

when i graduate i'll be 16,its coz i entered school early
what made me realize i can't pursue a career in art?
hmm...its kind of complicated...its because im doing the british system exams (i finished my o levels and im doing the advanced level right now) ive done alot of exams especially o levels(i had to do 15 subjects T_T ) and thank god i did well on all of them but i literally died ,the last 2years were like hell to me(staying up all night studying etc etc) and now after all this effort and mind wreck i cant just throw everything away and become an artist you know wat i mean?
and my parents are also strongly prejudiced against it(but its not the main reason why i decided to forget about art)
and i also talked to my cousin ,he's a game designer and he told me how much hes struggling with his job,and that its not financially satisfying (eventhough he's very talented at drawing)

so eventhough i love art,i realized its not something i could pursue....
realizing you cant follow your dreams is very frustrating 🙁

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and now after all this effort and mind wreck i cant just throw everything away and become an artist you know wat i mean?
and my parents are also strongly prejudiced against it(but its not the main reason why i decided to forget about art)
and i also talked to my cousin ,he's a game designer and he told me how much hes struggling with his job,and that its not financially satisfying (eventhough he's very talented at drawing)

so eventhough i love art,i realized its not something i could pursue....
realizing you cant follow your dreams is very frustrating 🙁

Fuck the logical thinking behind whether art is a successful career or not.
I had the same problem. My parents wanted me to do an academic subject because it's "more recognised" and you're "more likely to get a job at the end".
It's bullshit. Follow your passion. Nobody's guaranteed jobs at the end, even if they come out of effing Oxbridge.
I liked art, I followed my passion, I regret nothing. I found an area of art that I want to pursue and I'm loving it. Of course it's hard work, what isn't, but even though it's hard work, I'm enjoying it. That's what's getting me through this.

I say don't give up on your art. Even if you don't follow through with it at Uni or something, keep it as a hobby and do it on the side. Yeah, most of the time it's not the best job financial wise, but being freelance on the side of a main job is no harm.
You don't need to cast away anything. If you're as passionate as you say you are about art, you wont give it up.
I'm speaking from experience.