give me your best advice/what is something important you learned from your life?
15 years ago
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well thank you! I dont get kudos for that often 😀
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15 years ago
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i learned that life is precious.
by reading mangaXD and observing people 🙂
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15 years ago
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Quote from otakuness
well thank you! I dont get kudos for that often 😀
I'm a cynic, but I know that optimists probably enjoy life more, so you deserve kudos 🙂
There are times when you will miss what you never had. I wonder how you will find what you so desperately need.
15 years ago
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be open minded but dont be so open minded that you will believe everything
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15 years ago
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Eh... I guess I'm going to have to provide the unpopular "logical" perspective. No offense to tactics and others. They chose a path that worked out for them and their experience tells them to go with their passions.
My own experience was different, which I'm sure you'll appreciate as my response to you won't be cliche.
I started off being interested in software development as a kid, mainly because I wanted to make my own games. After realizing that it would be next to impossible to keep up with more modern games by just programming on my own (along with a host of other hard realities), I began thinking more carefully about what fields I was interested in.
I was interested in in psychology, but my parents and others discouraged that and wanted me to go into engineering, since I had been accepted into the best engineering schools in the nation, one of them being only 20 minutes drive away from home. Like you, I didn't want my hard work in high school to go to waste.
I thought I'd regret that. I didn't feel very passionate about it, and thought it was too much tedious work. I didn't think I'd ever enjoy it...
You know what? I'm fine with it now. I have high income doing something that I kind of enjoy. I like being on top of latest software technology, being surrounded by extremely intelligent individuals, and having some managerial control over what others do and how things are done.
The thing is, I never thought it would be fun/rewarding until I tried it... and as materialistic as it may sounds, it feels pretty good not needing to worry about money.
People change. People are dynamic, and don't have to be static. As I mentioned above, I had made up my mind about what I want to be and what I want to do at least 3 times. These were major life decisions. I think as people grow up, they'll start to realize that there's more to reality than that romantic notion of blindly and stubbornly following a single passion/goal.
Note that just because you choose not to major in art in college, doesn't mean you can't be an artist on the side. You can draw or take classes on the side (or after you graduate and start working a day job). Or you can just draw/paint/create as a hobby. No one is stopping you. Keep in mind that some of the best artists/writers didn't start off as such. Many of the very best artists and writers had or still have day jobs with which they draw inspiration/ideas from. At the very least, they aren't just good at art. They spend a lot of time on research. Their experiences in specific non-artistic fields provide them with enriching experiences that average people wouldn't know and might find interesting.
As for the advice, my best advice, whenever you're lost on what to do, is to envision yourself in the future. Try not to be vague, "I envision myself as an artist!" (or whatever). The important thing is to be clear, concrete, precise. Brainstorm and list what you want or expect to have in the future. Example:
I want to have a career in art.
I picture myself working 40 hours a week or less.
I want to work for a friendly manager; I want to work with a company that has limited creative control over my work.
I want to be married by 30.
My husband will be [not abusive], [working professional], [working in a different/same field as me]...
My husband and I will have X hours to spend together per week.
I will have 2-3 children.
I have a close group of friends with whom I spend a fair amount of time with.
I'll probably be spending N hours per week and M dollars on cosmetics to make myself look good.
I'll have 1 cat, no dogs, etc
I will to travel very often.
My family will live in a 3 bedroom house in XYZ neighbourhood, where the average home value is 800k USD.
I want to retire at age 60.
... Do as much brainstorming as you can, and be honest. Organize the tidbits however you like (professional goals, social goals, etc). Then try to figure out what makes sense and what doesn't.
Example, if you only want to work 30 hours per week as a graphic designer, it might be unrealistic to want an 800k USD house, travel around the world, and retire at age 60. If you want to own a house and two cars, with a middle class income, you might want to save. If you want to marry early to an attractive man whom you expect to have higher standards, you might want to also set some time for exercising, cosmetics, socializing/dating, etc.
The clearer your vision of the future is, the clearer your path will be. The more vague you are about your future, the harder it will be for you to draw a map/plan. Without this map, you don't have a clear direction. Someone with no direction in life will essentially be putting himself/herself in the hands of Lady Luck, bumping around blindly until he/she gets to where he/she wants to be. It works out for some people, not so well for others.
thanks this helped alot 😀
and everyone else too,thank u all 🙂
