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4:48 pm, Mar 5 2009
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lol, I am reading some of these people's post of how they would get spanked, but I would get hit in the butt with a belt. eyes Now, it did not get hurt (most of time lol ), but it was the message that the belt sent,the message was seeing that you did wrong and that the belt hurt your bottom, lol. The only time it hurt was when I tried running away from my mom, my mom would miss my butt and hit my legs and say "pinche chamaco, espera para que te de otro"(Fucking kid/brat,wait 'till I give you another) LMAO. This taught me to show respect with any adult, I never speak to an adult who i don't know in a casual way only formal. I don't have a trauma, I only look back at it laughing a lot.

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Give me a while to find this, I was told by social services worker.

Not a problem, I appreciate it, thanks. I've been looking and I can't find it anywhere, just the opposite, actually. Btw, is it a federal or state law?
If it truly is a law, I may rethink my stance on that.

After some looking I found I was misinformed apparently. Australia is the only place where you can't hit in the face. Maybe I just misunderstood him?

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Thank you KennEH! for looking.

Soooo, I guess I won't be moving there if I do decide to discipline my children that way.

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Quote from kiriyama-Rei
lol, I am reading some of these people's post of how they would get spanked, but I would get hit in the butt with a belt. eyes Now, it did not get hurt (most of time lol ), but it was the message that the belt sent,the message was seeing that you did wrong and that the belt hurt your bottom, lol. The only time it hurt was when I tried running away from my mom, my mom would miss my butt and hit my legs and say "pinche chamaco, espera para que te de otro"(Fucking kid/brat,wait 'till I give you another) LMAO. This taught me to show respect with any adult, I never speak to an adult who i don't know in a casual way only formal. I don't have a trauma, I only look back at it laughing a lot.

Man, I got threatened with the belt so many times when I was little. As soon as I saw the Spanish, fwoosh, flashbacks man. Here's another one
"Vente aqui si no te dare un trancaso que nunca olvidaras!" (Get over here or I'll give you a beating you'll never forget!) Or the chanclas (shoes). Shoes are deadly.
Funny how it sounds more ominous in another language laugh

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I would friggin kill my kid if they deserved it.

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I voted that if I had children I'd spank them when they were severly mischievous and give them a moral reason for it afterwards. However, this may not correct the issue when they have disorders, such as ADHD and autism. Depending on their mental stability, counseling and medication may be something to consider.

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I would friggin kill my kid if they deserved it.

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I was raised on spanking and I turned out fine. Compare to my younger siblings who weren't and can be total asses. laugh

I would exercise it, but not to the extreme.

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Corporal punishment!
Just kidding. I definitely would never spank one of my children because I believe there are more suitble punishments - showing disappointment works wonders. Not only that, but I was never once physically punished for any of my wrong doings and I turned out.... well, let's just say I turned out.



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Corporal punishment!
Just kidding. I definitely would never spank one of my children because I believe there are more suitble punishments - showing disappointment works wonders

"Mommy is going to die if you won't behave?" laugh

I prolly won't use violence since I doubt I need to
if they take after me and behave obediently by default.
(If I ever have kids.)

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No, punishment only represses feelings of aggression. Reinforcement of actions is much more effective...

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Maybe it's only my view, but I think some people live in denial.

Saying "I turned out fine/It helped me a lot" for being "taught" in corporal punishments...
Reminds me of the abused wife thing... They would mostly think it was their fault in some way, why they were hit and abused.

Some would say it worked on them. I say it didn't work on me.
All it gave me is unnecessary doubts in myself that eat me inside...
I wasn't spanked though. My first memories including "corporal punishment" were of belts...
I do think spanking can lead to more severe punishments. It's like drugs. They'd want a bigger dose of hitting...

Some here would probably think I'm straying of topic, or that I'm going to extremes. But it's a touchy matter with me, and I know how people think hitting their kids would help them grow better... Well, I strongly object that opinion.
And like in my case, the parent might just enjoy seeing the look of fright on their child's face.

And as for the question, no. If I ever gonna have kids, I'm not going to use corporal punishments on them.

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^ Yeah I agree.

My parents never spanked me, hit me or anything but I think that has a lot to do with me being the only girl in my family since they would use anything on my brothers. The closest thing to punishment was when my mother slapped me but that had nothing to do with my behavior. I don't think punishing a child by spanking them does much, my parents always did it to my brothers and I think that just made them act out more. Anyway, I won't be doing any corporal punishment with my kids.

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In my case, it had more to do with "am I more afraid of my father than I am of [whatever it was that I intended to do]". A good fear of Dad's displeasure did more to deter me from things than most anything else.

I guess it's really just a matter of making sure that kids understand it as a punishment, and not as just general abuse. I was always well aware that I was wrong in whatever I did to get spanked, and that the spanking (always hand, never belt, switch, etc.) was my punishment. It only happened maybe 4-5 times in my life, so I knew that I wasn't being abused. There's definitely not as sense of "battered wife syndrome" in my case.

Perhaps that mentality is the difference between those of us who say "I was spanked and I'm fine" and those who think it's borderline abuse, or could lead to more/worse beatings.

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hell yeah, if its needed

see there are things that can be solved without doing that..
but damn sometimes i see some kids controling their parents, being disrespectful to others and i think >.< if u were my kid ill knock u out u lill Fuc^3R laugh laugh

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Sometimes kids won't understand anything but a spanking. But anything more than a spanking is wrong.

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