i dont know it not like i really dont want one but when ever i start thinking of getting one my brain goes all rational on me. Thiers like this huge one sided debate in my head agianst getting a girlfriend. as for an arranged marriage i might just get into one if the girls my type other wise i can just say no. my type isnt the housewifey for one thing.

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I'd be very interested in hearing a girls point of view on dating. What exactly drives a girl to get a guy? And when she wants one, what is she looking for? (Got my notepad ready, so go ahead)

Read the label for the south east asian ones, apparently wives that aren't totally female are big over there. that'd be a hell of a surprise.

But on the original post, Coming from a guy in the exact same position you and vinceasuma talked about (unsocial, male, and quite nerdy but didn't pull it off as well when you're younger) beings friends with girls is weird. period. Way more complicated than guy friends, but fullfilling in different ways.
But espcially for the times when you said you just started high school and drifted apart, that's not surpiring at a new school. different people will attract new different ppl. And if they're lame enough to ditch their old friends, beh who needs em?

I think maybe females sometimes shun males because of how open and caring they are. If they begin to think the guy is attracted to them, they might start to avoid them instead of confronting them. In some mindsets, they might view it as being kinder than breaking their hearts.

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did you ever try giving a girl more attention ?

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Maybe because people change? People get older, losing interest of something, even of their best friends. Of course there's also what you called best friend forever, maybe because they develop in to the same direction. I don't really think about specific reasons, or whose fault etc, people change and toss everything away, which it doesn't fit in their life anymore, just being egoistic.
Btw sorry about my english

to the OP:
1-lol WHY i say WHY do you need a GIRL to be your friend o.O'''
2-They prolly liked you but in the end got sick of waiting for your move. I know girls have this BAD BAD habit of NOT showing much interest in someone (but in reality they are interested) thinking instead they are actually showing him some hints.

In the end, get rid of this need to be "friend" to a girl (brr) and be a lil smarter to catch signals of female interest in you (=get rid of your low self esteem, join clubs, participate in event/competition/workgroups and test yourself FOR REAL, not for some delusions you have on yourself)

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Wow... this is actually kind of a difficult one. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus and all that. You know, there are many types of girls... And if they're as young as 16, well, then you REALLY don't know what their actions will amount to and what their reasoning might be... It's probably a really good idea to not beat youself up over this matter and (I know this is such a cliché ) be yourself. Because no matter what age, a woman always tries to avoid a poser (If they're not looking for a quick fuck, that is. Then sincerity isn't quite as high up on the list as it usually is.).
Just to clear things up, I am a woman.
I've done the "dump-a-guy-without-an-explanation-thing". I've also done the "...we-need-to-talk...-thing". I've been the one who was dumped without an explanation. I have guy friends I get along great with and guys I can't stand. In the end it all seems to be a matter of chemistry, really. So, I don't really think you need an explanation about why women do what they do to you -- I think you went for the wrong girls. Just because it doesn't work the first time doesn't mean it won't work the second time. And I'll say it again: 16. Kids that age are concerned about a lot of things -- image and popularity really do play important roles. When I was that age people got together left and right and screwed around like fucking rabbits, but I can count the amount of couples who really LIKED each other on one hand. A really fulfilling love life doesn't start until people grow up a bit mentally.
And, shit, does it sound like I'm ancient or what? I'm not, seriously. No, seriously.

At least she has something to say

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That is a very true point...and yes, I suppose at that age - girls would want to hang out with cooler guys/ppl or sometimes stay away from people they think are boring or not with the general public. I am a female and I have a hard time getting along with females ... Generally, you should concur to their acceptable image- if not you are automatically not so cool - does this even make sense?

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I wonder ... In this case I don't think a person would avoid another for a noble cause as 'being kind'. I think one just avoids another for the sake of avoiding the confrontation. It's in human nature to avoid stuff you don't like... Lines like "I'm being so kind, I'm not breaking his heart" are lines to comfort you when you feel bad about the whole 'avoiding' issue

Well that's just what I think anyway

Its not actually being kind, its rather like I dont want to get involved in the hassle of rejection or getting mushy...

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Being a female, feel I ought to share my point of view from own experience here too =D

To begin with, I've a fair few friends who are male (Though my closest friends are all also girls). Now, I'll admit that I have something of a 'crush' on one of the guys. He's sweet enough, witty and generally fun to be around; if something of a perv at times However, I highly doubt he's really the sort who'd be interested in getting together- not that's he's out of my league, but he seems more of the 'just friends' sort. I'm personally quite happy to just carry on as good friends for as long as, but I know people in the same situation as me who'd sooner just stop speaking with said guy altogether.

I really can't see why a girl would 'shun' a guy becuase he's caring and open. Believe it or not that seems to be what a lot of girls around here at least would love to find in a guy =D If anything they'd probably have simply thought "I think he's more interested in simply being friends." and given up altogether.

Of course, I'm probably a bad example- being a but of a tomboy who seems to generally get on better with males than other girls.

haha yeah but she sorta right what i tend to notice is that girls will either avoid the guy or not do anything cause they like the attention

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