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Last edited by Dubby at 4:24 pm, Jul 27 2020

Yeah, I think you can.
But it hasn't happened to me. O_O
I've seen it a lot in games, where people meet people and they start texting each other, webcaming, talking on the phone, and end up developing a relationship.

But like you, yeah, I wouldn't pursue anything unless we meet face-to-face.

And then again, I've never experienced it.

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This should be relevant.

Just as long as you have means of communication,it's possible to fall in love. However, as you said, there's always a danger of falling in love with one's perception of the other. That is why honesty plays the biggest part.

I used to think talking to strangers online was creepy, but after having been around forums for a while, I found online people to be much more bearable, well, depending on the forum. And here was where I met Chris.

Six months ago, we started "going out". We were complete strangers; like, we didn't even talk to each other prior. It was sort of a "Hey, you're the type of person I'd consider going out with" "Oh yeah, so do you" "Wanna go out?" "Sure". And to this day, despite the problems we've had, I will never regret it.

To this point, I don't even consider us as an online relationship anymore because we stopped talking online after a month. It started out in a message. Just back and forth questions and answers about ourselves. Then after a week, we started our phone calls. Okay, I really don't recommend that anyone do that so quickly. It's really unsafe to just give out your number after having known each other for just a week. But I trusted him, and I was lucky because he wasn't a 40yo pedophile(he's a 23yo one JK, but really, I'm 17 so it's barely legal)

The first month was really fast paced. We were really into each other and started saying our "I love you"s by Thanksgiving. We called really really often, every two or three nights. Of course, I couldn't tell my parents. They would have taken away my cell phone and installed some type of camera that records my computer activities.

I told my friends though, and because I had met him online, they disapproved A LOT. It actually caused a sort of rift between my best friend and me because she was the one who disapproved the most. And I knew about their cautions, and tried to be careful, but I really liked him so that's what kept me going.

We met after two months. He flew up here and we spent an hour and a half together. Yeah, it was pretty quick for a first time meeting, but because I was doing this behind my parents back and because I couldn't drive at the time, I could only stay for so long. But it was the best hour and a half that I've had. Also, I met him somewhere I was not familiar with—a REALLY big no-no, AND I was alone. My ride ditched me so I couldn't help it. Luckily, he was who he had said he was.

From that point on, we had a couple ups and really low downs. And due to some circumstances, I can't say we're really dating. It's more of an "it's complicated". But in the couple of months we've been talking, he's become like a best friend to me. He's someone I feel like I can turn to when I have no one else. He knows me really really well and is always just able to cheer me up. I can't even count the number of times I've cried to him.

Of course, our 1000 mile distance is a problem. It caused me to do something completely stupid, which led to a break up, but after a while, started talking again.

Every relationship is different. After having experienced all this, I don't think one should biased against how people handle their love lives. I say, if you find success, then good for you. Let other people find their own using their own methods. Meeting online is dangerous, of course, but if you're lucky you could be meeting someone you'll be spending the rest of your life with, so why not? Just be careful.

The thing with online relationships is that because you can't meet face to face, there's a much more dependency on the personality. Like, Chris and I have never webcammed. It was all phone calls, texting, and the occasional photo. So I didn't fall in love with the face, but for who he was.

Hopefully, he reads this and doesn't yell at me haha. I don't really know if I said something I shouldn't though.

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No.

Love is more than communication. It's shown through actions, not words. It's about being with someone and sharing your life with them. You can't do that over the internet, unless the person's life consists of merely MMOs.

One of my high school friends did. She had known the guy for years online, which slowly developed into a relationship through webcaming, etc. He flew from the other side of the country to meet her several times, and eventually moved to find a job close to her. I was one of the bridesmaids in their wedding just a few months ago.

I understand your viewpoint here - like I said, I was in the exact same boat as you for years.

I agree that love is about being there with someone, and that's why face-to-face interaction is important.

What I now believe is - and you can feel free to agree or disagree with me here - is that it's possible to gain the attraction to someone online. Personality wise, etc. Maybe a crush. But for it to "blossom" into love or whatever, you need to know the person IRL and see if all the factors that aren't available online work offline. & if the person is how they are online - since you know people have more balls online than offline. That's why, like I said, I wouldn't ever pursue a relationship online, even if I liked the person (and tbh I've never really fallen victim to liking someone I met online).

If you get what I'm saying.

But yes.

daisuki, that sounds so ;.;. That story was so cute. XD

It's possible.

I believe that there are people that fall in love online. I don't believe in it for myself though.

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I do, cause it happened to me. We met shortly afterwards though, and it's been pretty good ever since.

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This sounds like a pretty funny topic but it all depends on the persons definition of "love".
You can fall in love with the Ifle tower then why not something/somebeing or even a none living thing right?


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I believe in letting people do as they wish, as do I myself. Sometimes, of course, what I wish to do is kill them and they do not wish to die. This gives life interest.

the only way to truly figure out if you love someone or not is: Are you able to live without them? does the thought of losing them give you sadness? thats about it~

As for me no I never loved anyone online, sure I like some people, but can easily leave them for 2-3 years and come back for a chat, so it's fun~

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lol
I truly don't know but anything is possible so...............

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No one gives a shit what trite garbage you write here.

'tis possible as it's happened before.

There's a huge difference between loving something/someone and being IN love.