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Because we live in a society where girls who aren't deemed 'pretty' barely get anywhere unless they're very skilled or lucky. /: Sad truth.
yap this is so true..well i think
its because its human nature to be
judgemental..
There's nothing inherently wrong with being judgmental if we're smart about it.
No offense to the girls, but looking at thing objectively, without letting my hormones take over, I think men deserve just as much sympathy if not more than women when it comes to being judged for looks.
In liberal democratic countries, there's been an accelerating trend of inversal of gender roles. While women have been gaining power and equality (which I applaud, good for them), an unfortunate correlative effect seems to be that men have been pussified.
Society is just as judgmental about men if not more so than they are women. For instance, for statistics on online dating, for every 50 messages sent from a man to a woman, a single message gets sent from a woman to a man. That's a 50 to 1 ratio. That seems to suggest that women can be pickier than men and that men have to work much harder.
Also, many of my female friends who complained that they can't find dates have confided in me that part of the difficulty lies in the fact that they want to find a man who is taller and has a higher income than themselves. Thus, their standards will naturally grow and men's options will become increasingly limited as women displace more men from the workforce and their income rises. I'm not saying that's a bad thing that women are getting fair treatment, but this is the natural detrimental regression for men if
most women (despite what they say explicitly) still keep the same high standards for men.
In stark contrast, men have very low standards for women. I've rarely heard a man think poorly of a woman who can just take good care of her health. Most men are simple-minded and don't care about a woman's income (which takes real work/effort) or her height (which is extremely difficult to change, unlike the rest which can be fixed by makeup).
If a woman stays with her parents after graduating from school, it's understandable. Hell, the father probably just wants to protect his daughter. Neither I nor many other men I know would really care (men I know from parts of Europe, USA, Canada, and China). If a man was staying home after graduating from school, then he's a social pariah. Most men I know would ridicule him or think that he is pitiful. Hell, some parents would just kick their son out for being a bum.
At the same time, while there's no social stigma for women to complain about social pressures (to be skinny, beautiful, etc), there's a massive stigma against men who complain, even from their own.
Common inane insults I've gotten when I brought up these issues in the past:
"Oh, you just can't get a girlfriend."
"You must have a small ****."
"Man up and stop being a pussy!"<insert more "shaming language" spewed by insecure people who don't have an argument to make>
Last edited by N0x_ at 12:31 am, Jan 17 2011