That so? lol I wasn't even dating during the 80s or 90s, but yeah that's how I like it. I may perhaps be a reverse hipster.

When in a long term relationship, I do let my boyfriend spoil me cause I know I can reciprocate anytime.

I would think so? It looks like it could get pretty annoying, from the looks of my friends, and not to mention my love-sick brother... It does look fun and... what was that word that was on my lips? Anyways, depends on how you think about it really, I guess. But then again, I've never dated, and have no plans to ever in the future. As amaranthine said, it would probably get REALLY expensive too. It's expensive enough just to love someone... can't imagine how much it'll cost to date someone... >->

Nothing to do with my plans, but my parents are ones who have been saying marriage, or relationships in general, is the same as sending yourself into your own grave... They think of it as pretty meaningless, pointless, and waste of time. I, myself, don't particularly care if it is or not, I just won't. Nothing to do with what they say either.

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To be honest I find it tedious. At first when I start dating I get wrapped up in it but as it goes on it becomes a chore sometimes. I have a personality that gets bored of something after a while and sometimes my relationships have ended because of that. I would always break off a relationship right when summer break during college started because the girls I dated lived away from me so it would have been difficult to date. So I guess I find it tedious to date with my crappy personality. Then again my longest relationship was just over 6 months.

Yes, see when feminism was still considered cool and many women started preferring a career over family and they had to show that they're equal to men by insisting paying their own share. The women who are (or rather, were when they were young) like this are now middle aged. That's why I said dated. I don't know what to make of a man who let's his date pay for his share, I've never encountered or even heard of it before.

I'd also be more inclined to think being a reverse hipster as doing the opposite. That is, unless it was the 80's. But then, I don't really know how things are in the US (assuming you're from there).

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No offense meant, but maybe you just don't go out a lot? Or maybe different norms in your region. I managed a restaurant before, and trust me, women paying for their dates are nothing out of the ordinary.

No offence taken. I go out daily (because of circumstances). And have in several countries in several continents. But again, I've never been to Americas. Which is why I probably don't see practised a lot of things that are the usual practice over there (esp. in USA).

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yeah girls paying for dudes is super common in the states XD in fact, sometimes its so common i tell my female friends "OMFG tell your man to get a job and stop being a goddamned mooch!" except i was that girl once too *sigh*

honestly, dating can get tedious. but not in the bored-of-the-person type of way, just in the motions and expectations. like, going out to dinner and a movie or some other activity is nice sometimes and all, but really my ideal version of spending time with a romantic interest would be hanging out at home on the couch watching netflix or youtube or something. unfortunately for newer romantic interests that activity may come with other unintended connotations attached, so that activity is out unless they're my full on boyfriend ;( can't win!

dating can also be really expensive...and unhealthy...all that eating out? ugh! being single currently has done wonders to my waistline.

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Another US thing? Eating out equals to McDonald's or some place like that? Well actually, that does seem to be more and more common all around the world. Are they trying to take over the world or something? No wait, they already have!

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Lol, its not like, when you go out on a date, you're more focused on the food,
And you wouldn't normally eat at a family restaurant or, yeah, fast foods..

You would normally eat at a, not-so-not-fancy restaurant or cafés,
Well, I guess it varies from country to country, or people...

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Yeah, maybe,
It's kinda expensive especially when you're going out with the not so simple female type..

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Oh, and, yeah, girls paying for themselves is kinda uncommon (or men shouldn't allow them),
at least on the first few dates while you're still testing the waters, yeah...

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Not exactly fast food, unless they're in middle school or something. It's usually at a nicer restaurant. If they're a bit older, maybe microbreweries or bars too.

Hahaha. Sometimes me and my boyfriend go for food runs between one to three a.m. to fast food places if we're really hungry and lazy. I would definitely not consider that eating out though since we always take the food back to his place.

Personally, me and my boyfriend usually split the bill. I don't pay for him, he doesn't pay for me. It's a lot easier (to us) that way.

As for being "expensive," "unhealthy," and "all that eating out" ... no. I haven't gotten fatter since I've been in a relationship, LOL. It depends on the couple, it's rather silly to generalize that every couple goes out to eat all the time (and gains weight in the process?). Plus who has the time or money for that, anyway. People and couples that I know my age are perfectly happy with only going out to eat sparingly, including me. Well, friends in relationships that I know are smart about their money, and are smart about dating in general. I find it to be a lot more fun cooking at home with my boyfriend instead of eating out.

Dating does not have to be tedious as long as you manage your time, your expenses, and how you have fun. Me and my boyfriend are both in school, so we know our priorities. You just have to be smart about dating.

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If you're dating someone and you think it's tedious, then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship.


Wait... what? Did I read that right? Why do you think men shouldn't allow women to pay for bills?

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Okay, maybe keeping up with the birth control can get tedious but hey, I don't want a kid right now, or ever!

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I agree completely, but then again, I'm also married, so maybe that has something to do with it. The thing is, all relationships require some sort of effort (even non-romantic ones), so if you have to put in an amount of effort that you feel is too much, you're not going to enjoy it, so it will probably start feeling tedious.

As far as dating being expensive, it will only be as expensive as you make it. Contrary to popular belief, a date doesn't have to cost money. When my husband and I were dating, we rarely went out to eat. Instead, we did lots of different activities together (most of them free or very cheap) and I think that was more fun than going to a restaurant all the time.

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Haha, lol ^^
What I'm saying is, if you two still aren't that close or somethin, since the guy invited the girl, the guy should at least pay for her, yeah...

But, if for example, you two are already living with each other, or have been together for years already,,, or, are very close,
The girl paying for the guy sometimes isn't out of the ordinary, it's like, your money is his money, and vice versa...

Just think about it, what if, the guy is occupied with somethin and the girl is the one buying (eg. Food, ticket, etc) wouldn't it be kinda awkward if the guy would still give money (or at least his share) if you two had been together for a long period of time already... (and vice versa, guy is buying)

Just my Opinion BTW ^^

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I've given up on it for now. I've only had 1 relationship but I wouldn't even count it as official. Other guys have been interested in me but whenever I start being interested in them, they pull away. To be honest, I'm tired of this cat and mouse game and that's why I've decided to give up on dating. I mean, yea I really enjoy the sex part of a relationship but if we gotta play cat and mouse, it's just not worth the hassle or the time in my opinion. I'm actually quite satisfied just being single right now.

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