Okay, so i have this friend that i just recently met who is really fun and interesting to be around.
We were talking over msn about stuff and then he randomly asked me if i was into alcohol/drugs/smoking. I already knew he was a bit of a partier but it really surprised me when he told me he smoked and did weed and lsd occasionally.

Anyways i'm not into any of those so i said no but he wants me to do weed with him sometime. He also invited me to a party and after asking some friends of his, i discovered his parties generally involve a lot of drinking and sometimes drugs...

I'm not sure what to do/say because i really like him but im not into that sort of stuff.
Btw i'm a minor so its also illegal (15years old)

Well, you said that you are not into such things, so I think you already have the answer - If you don't like it and you think it's wrong, don't do it. Many people became addicted to drugs or start smoking because their friends convinced them it would be fun. I don't have any experience with drugs, but getting very, very drunk is not as funny as some people may assume.

I can tell you about me. I'm strongly against any kind of drugs and whenever someone offered them to me at a party, I refused. Some people thought I was weird but I didn't care because they weren't worth being my friends anyway. Most people accepted it. And some of them even started to respect me more because I have a mind of my own and can say 'no' when I don't agree with something. I think that people who do everything they are told are not very respected.

And, by the way, don't forget that such lifestyle may ruin your whole life.

Sorry about my strange English I hope you'll make a right decision.

Drinks and drug taking... just no. You are more likely to overdose, a quick trip to hospital anyone? You've also got to remember that these drugs are hallucinogens, once the trip starts it won't stop in a hurry, so if you have a bad trip you're in trouble. I could also list the numerous psychological problems that you could develop from taking the drugs. In short, the safest route is to not take them. Besides if you get caught, it will almost definitely be the end. Even if you don't get in trouble for dealing, you'll still have to sit through hours of self-help programs etc, and you could even ruin your potential job or university applications.

So in my opinion don't do drugs or get drunk. If your so called friend can't understand or except this, then he doesn't care about you or yyour well-being and isn't even worth your time of day.

If you aren't comfortable with his interests and lifestyle (parties and drugs)
Probably means that you don't have many common interests or opinions.
It doesn't seem like he has any intention of changing his behaviour because of you.
A relationship like that wouldn't make you happy!

BTW:
Don't do stupid things like drugs, drinking, or dating worthless guys.

You shouldn't do those things if you don't feel that is what you want to do. So if your belief is that taking drugs/smoking/drinking is wrong then don't do it just to be accepted by someone. I am saying this from my experience, being a person who has friends that do these things while I don't. I was never pressured into doing the same things as them. They just took it as a dislike of something they like and there were no further comments. You're not going to eat meat when you're a vegetarian just because your new friend goes to Mc Donald's all day long. If you get what I mean.

Just stick to your principles and if he is really interested in you as a person he won't care if you do drugs or not. If he does care, then screw him. He probably just wants to hang out with someone doing the same things as him. And that can be found at any party he goes to.

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Does not compute.

If you don't want to, don't.
No matter how much you like him, like yourself more. Your whole life could be ruined by these things.
Do you think one guy is worth it?

Seriously. Straight away, I know that guy will bring nothing but trouble in the future about drugs. He's not worthy of you in any way if he pressures you into partying, or drugs or any kind of pressure. Despite that he may seem like a good guy, friends are supposed to respect you. If he doesn't respect that you rather avoid this kind of partying or drugs, then he's not your friend. Screw him!! End of story. And if you ever get caught because you're underage, be prepared to face consequences. I don't think you'll be that kind of person. Be brave and flat out say no. He's not gonna pursue you because you guys only talk on msn (right??) I've got plenty of people with posts above mine that all agree to what we're saying.

But at the end, it's your own choice. We can only advise you, but not decide for you. Whatever you decide, take responsibility for your own actions or you're not a worthy person at all. I know it sounds harsh but it's the truth.

A lot of people here seem to be jumping to conclusions...Just because someone does something you don't doesn't mean the two of you can't get along.

My advice: it seems that you enjoy his company, so I encourage that you try to keep it. However, drugs are bad and yadda yadda, so refuse his suggestions of drinkings and drugs. Tell him valid reasons you have for refusing (you're a minor, your parents wouldn't approve, you've read about the health risks and don't want to get into it, etc), but imply that you still want to enjoy his company as you always have.

If he keeps persisting and doesn't listen to you, then you might want to try what these more radical people are suggesting.

I don't think we're being radical....but more focused on the consequences of drugs and smoking. A lot of us mentioned that him as a friend, he should respect her for her decisions, but if he doesn't then he shouldn't be her friend.

Maybe I should make myself clear. Still be friends with him, but if he doesn't respect you, don't be his friend.

Thanks Blique for that.

For a start the guys only dropping some acid and smoking some weed so all this getting addicted and ruining your life stuff people are spouting isnt neccesarily true....hes hardly asking you to shoot up some smack or anything. Secondly you can hang about with the guy and hit hsi parties but just tell him you are not into that sort of stuff and unless the guy is a prick he will be fine with it. I know tons of people I hang about with who take varying degrees of substances and nobody forces it on other people. That might just be because im older and the peer presure stuff kind of disappears after high school though.

may i say that friend is not a person who ruin your life (especially when they didn't even try to hide it)...
to know anyone/everyone, as many as possible, is a must. to socialize with them is also a must (ones life should be big, very big). we're not born in this universe alone... but be very careful on who you gonna call friend... have some standard Table.
ps: no you don't need that stuff just to socialize.

In my opinion, doing something like that just to gain acceptance isn't something you should do. If you say no and your friend doesn't understand, then explain why you don't want to. If your friendship is broken off, then make new friends and get over it. In the end, you'll know that you made the best decision. You're fifteen; you have many years ahead of you to make great memories. Don't screw it up by choosing to do drugs. I know a lot of people whose lives have gone down the drain by choosing poor decisions.

If you don't want to do it, don't do it. If you do, then... that's your decision.

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No. Just no. You can be friends with him if you want, but stay away from the drugs and alcohol scene.

I've been there when I was around your age range - I've seen things that stays with you for a long time. Drugs will mess you up pretty bad, it's good for short-term relief, but you will suffer disastrous consequences if you keep this up.

Frankly, any man whose into that kind of stuff is a pretty damn good indication that he won't fulfill you emotionally in a relationship. I know you're fifteen, and you might think he's hot stuff - but really, any male teenager has issues they need to sort out (and some usually do by the time they hit their twenties, thirties... sometimes never.)

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my advice is Stay Away from him.

yeah, you like him but he isn´t worth your life. even if he understand that you cant take that kind of things... slowly it will affect you or the worst, he will affect you.
and I'm afraid if you dont have strong principles, eventually you will get into those things.
a lil thought that "ah, it just cigarette, I'll just try a single bar" "ah, just a gulp of minor alcohol.." "just once, it wont affect me" "I wont look nerd in front of him/his friend, I'll just try once this time" if those kind of things happen, it would be hard to get out.
Do not even think that you are able to stand it if you ever try, because mostly cant.....
especially if you have develop a deep feeling for him, he will persuade you lil by lil slowly, or you yourself wanna suit ur self with him by trying those kind of things. well, it could happen. so, step back before you fall too far, before it's too late.
I have warn you. There are million man out there to catch

Hope this help you.

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Don't do it.

Sure, you can hang out with him. Just don't go to his parties. Be his friend if you really want to, but not his druggie drunk friend.

Seriously, drugs & alcohol are not the way. :[

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