@Grandxeno:

But do you take everything literally? Of course, she's not going to count the days exact.

"Yes, it's the xth day of xth month, now we can get physical!"

It's just the general feel that those terms give. Three-four months is a medium amount of time, while six months is a long amount of time.

So to me, it translated as;

"And if so, how long could you wait? Would 'a medium amount of time' be okay? Would 'a long amount of time' be too much?"

Yes, I'm weird like that. Sorry, if I offended you in any way.

But, saying that we're calculating something, while not referring to the calculating part in your post, is indeed vague.
That just might be me though.

Edit: Gorath has a good opinion. ;P

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wow, this reminds me of silent bob...coz you almost never say anything besides

SeeYa

Gorath

and now you share this peace of wisdom...and well said indeed.


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More like Scruffy from Futurama.
Man, that guy's awesome.

Woah, I know a couple that is the exact same way. They started going out in 7th grade, and are still together through college.


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My best advice is to be upfront about what you want. Tell him how you feel about getting physical and that you want to wait then see what happens.

But you know if you feel this insecure about being in a relationship and opening yourself up, which is necessary for really loving a person, then maybe you should take a break from dating. There is nothing wrong with being single for a while, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. We are not such base creatures that we must strive always to be with another in order to be fully ourselves.



My dear man, that is a fallacy. Waiting sucks for the women too. We just have better toys

i had a question are their signs if a girl likes yu

Depends on the girl, Youngin.

i'm not really experience in this so my idea may sound stupid but why don't you talk to him about this...? Iono i just feel it seem right but don't over board it go and talk about the main subject and don't go around the subject to get there kill it with one or sentence 2.^^ its really a stress trying to read the other sec thoughts in relationship.. so being straightforward is easy >.>

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there are signs. If you're anything like me, they'll have to gonk you on the head with them to realize they're giving you signals. Ironically enough they did this and I still missed it. So I guess what I want to say is forget trying to read their signals and just ask them whats up.

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Everyone has gives good points, but what it all really comes down to is the person in the shoes and how they feel and want to approach this. there is never a set time to choose when to have intercourse unless you really want to. its neither old fashioned nor is it a bad thing to want to play the commitment game.

i guess waiting 3-4 months is ok, but just think about it sex can kill a relationship if a good base hasnt been made. its easy to have a sex buddy but not to keep a relationship. Speaking from experience... lol

then again its harder to find someone nowadays that isnt just interested in sex and not a serious relationship.
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Now apart from this can someone tell me why do girls have to be so stuck up and superficial or is it going to get better as i grow older. no offence to anyone reading this. lol nowadays its hard to find a simple girl that isnt interested whats in the guys pocket, or what he drives.

(ps. im 19) Almost 20
I know i sound like a loser but i want to hear a serious answer. since ive been reading good responses here i thought i could get it.
Can someone answer me this. or perhaps im just a little to mature for my age.

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Its going worser with age: for now they look at your "belongings" but with enough skill you can make them interested in yourself, your personality ecc. With the increasing of the age, theyll still look at your bank account, if you live alone, ecc: but you will rarely be able to overcome, with your personality, any "lacking" in these fields. Very depressing if you see that they seems to be not obliged to show/proof any money income, they only look at yours and judge XD

Example: my friend, she is 26 and stays with a 40 year old rich-good family man who treats her meanily (like he visits her only to f***); she only looks at wealthy people. This makes me laugh a lot. (anyway i have LOTS of examples besides this one)

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lol.... well i a good guy, i guess its true good guys finish last....
or is it nice guys... i dont remember. ok ty... haha... lol i guess i shoudl go back to how i was in high school and take care of image. and dress up really nicely. and here i was trying to find someone to like me for being me not how i dress... lol

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I wish I could contradict what grandexeno wrote but it's somewhat true. I've seen lots of beautiful women with men old enough to be their dad for financial reasons. Truth is I really don't see anything wrong with that. If both parties are happy with what they're getting...*shrugs*

But hey, don't lose hope! I'm 100% sure there are LOTS of women out there who give more importance to who you are than what you have.

Good Luck!

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It must really depend on the groups you hang out with, because my friends & I, and my family, have never ever been like that.

For me, the "having a job, not living at home, etc." is more about whether the guy is being responsible for himself & independent or still depending on his parents to take care of him, and not wanting to take over a support/provider/caretaker role. I don't care if a guy is rich or not, but if he can't support himself, that's a red flag to me that *he* may just be looking for someone to leech off of, and it ain't gonna be me!

I say this as someone a lot older than 19, though; I wouldn't look down on someone that age still living at home and needing help from parents.

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