I didn't really mean anyone in particular when I apologized, but I feel like I've rustled a few jimmies in this thread in ways I never intended. I kinda wish I hadn't said anything now.

Stating your opinion is ok, but do have in mind that there are some of us who DO engage in poly relationships. So many comments in this thread are a direct attack to us and our feelings, mostly from people who have no idea what a poly relationship is.
To those saying that it is cheating, I can tell you that all the poly relationships I've seen and lived take much more into consideration the partners' thoughts and expectations than many monogamous ones. When somebody consents it is not cheating. It is not unfair either because all the people involved are ok with it.

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the only thing that bothers me about some of the people in polygamy relationships, is that they constantly say that they are not jealous and dont have issues with unhealthy possessiveness. as if its selfish for people that want to be in monogamous relationships to expect their partner to be faithful. and all monogamous relationships are unhealthy, and only polygamy relationships are the healthy ones.

i respect peoples choices and so long as its not illegal, they can do what they want with their lives. but i dont think its necessary to attack other lifestyles to make yours seem ok. i think people should live their own lives, and leave others to theirs.

Not my cup of tea. I don't even like the idea, I would be a hypocrite saying that I don't mind it. Heck, I don't like it even in fiction! Then again, considering "normal" what the majority of people think, I wouldn't define myself normal, as I would still strongly reject the idea to engage with more than one girl even after being assured I'd get away with it; so I'm certainly not trying to impose my point of view.
It's not even a real opinion based on thoughts and reasoning, it's just how I feel about it, and love is all about feelings, right?

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Truth be told, i don't know of any polygamy relationships working, most therapists would probably tell you it doesn't end well.
What i can understand is a couple that been together 10 years plus and decide they need to..experiment so on and so forth. Couple that starts from day 1, lets share the love..not so sure.

Now, that is my opinion, however if it is possible, people should be allowed to undertake what they think they can handle i agree.

Last but not least, the thing about jealousy. Love is selfish, unless its unrequited and you do nothing about those feelings then it is selfish to a degree to want to be loved. Denying you are not selfish to a degree is only deluding yourself.

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I believe in letting people do as they wish, as do I myself. Sometimes, of course, what I wish to do is kill them and they do not wish to die. This gives life interest.

One other thing that bothers me is the possibility of one partner agreeing to a polyamorous relationship because they don't want to lose the other person, even though it may not be something they really want.

And I still come back to "keeping a relationship going between two people is hard enough, adding a third would just make it that much harder".

But...that's my own personal feeling...as long as it's between truly consenting adults (which is NOT the case in most polygamous sects/religions) I don't really have a problem with it. I can't imagine ever participating in it, but if others want to then it's their business not mine.

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1) I know many poly relationships that have lasted years. Even married ones.
2) There are also ways of dealing with jealousy. Being in an open relationship doesn't mean you can't spend time with the person you love, it doesn't mean they can cheat on you or go out with somebody without your consent.
"It is selfish to a degree to want to be loved" you say; it doesn't mean they will not return your love, it means they will also (maybe) love other people.

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I would never enter into a poly relationship, but I have no objection to consenting adults choosing to be polyamorous. What works or doesn't work for them is none of my business.

I do have a problem with polygamy though since this often involves young girls being married off without consent to older men.

Oh no, I was just telling people it is hypocritical to say polygamists are "not" selfish and monogamists are. Everyone in a relationship is selfish to a degree and whilst jealousy is not pretty, it's a normal biological instinct speared on for a reason. Should be no argument which is better, but we could speculate the effects of the human body.

yes I've heard there are situations that probably have worked, just don't know any myself. I mean, there are kings still in this day and age with multiple wives. Who's to say it doesn't work for them? He certainly has the capital to make it work with multiple families.

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I believe in letting people do as they wish, as do I myself. Sometimes, of course, what I wish to do is kill them and they do not wish to die. This gives life interest.

I generally avoid getting involved in such threads about society, especially when people mix ideologies/religion/cultural norms together.
I live in a country were polygamy is still legal, in the past it was wide-spread, for account my grandfather (two wives, I'm not sure how long before he divorced one of them)
but now it's getting rarer and rarer because of economic and social pressures, the ideological view pushed by female equality had no impact, the economic and social changes had bigger impact.
thought in counterpart to this, now extra-conjugal relationships are more pronounced than in the past.
someone said polygamy involves marrying little girls, that's something separate, it's because some countries laws don't bane such practices, also those are the most publicized cases don't represents the case of all polygamous marriages, I have know about such a case, someone instead of helping his unmarried son marry, married himself to a girl younger than his son, this really show how the mentality of some rich old men.

I know a guy who is in a relationship with five women, four of whom have other relationships, he has kids, is happy, and all his partners are also happy. I also knew a girl who was in an open relationship with her gf, and a couple more people that I talked to a bit.

I'm only against societies where it's always a guy with multiple women, but when it's something mutually wanted, sure, it can work, and it works well. Love is not exclusive, no matter what people say, and neither is sexual attraction - if anything, new partners are almost always more exciting than old ones, because that's how human mind works.

Well, I see no problem with these kinds of relationships among infertile people. Otherwise, it would increase the population.

P.S: Although It might not be easy for a deer to understand 'la joie de vivre'
        of a leopard; would it try to; for this deer, there would be nothing to fear
        for when it could get caught and be eaten by a leopard.

It's fine with me however I wouldn't be in a poly-amorous relationship.