Question for guys, please, I have been wondering this... First of all, I heard that all those hours us girls can spend on makeup and clothes go completely unnoticed, so I was wondering.

Honestly, when you look at a girl, what is the first thing you notice? Basically, I've heard guys only look at bust size... Or face... I don't wear any makeup, usually, and I only spend a while on my hair when I'm getting ready because my hair is very long. I'm wondering if I'm really 'noticed' by guys at all because I'm not drop-dead gorgeous and do not plan to attempt to make myself into something I'm not. So what do guys notice first, to give the best first impression?

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When I said 'death' before 'dishonor', I meant alphabetically.

Imagine what would happen if there were no more hypothetical situations.

Not true. We do notice. Perhaps not 'all the hours', but at least 'some'.

Boobs. Sorry, I couldn't help it. Now more seriously:

It differs from person to person. It depends what kind of 'attributes' the girl has and how well she's displaying them, also if she's facing us, is turned sideways or back to us. It depends what the girl is wearing, how much makeup has she on, what color is her hair, etc.

It can be the bust size, her behind, legs, face, eyes, smile, hair color or cut. The way she is dresses or the way she smells (what kind of perfume she uses). It can even be the way she laughs (assuming we heard her before we saw her).

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I don't like it when a girl wears too much make-up. A bit to accent her features, sure, but not too much.

Last edited by Gradonil_Ral at 12:19 pm, May 12 2013

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Being the lazy person that I am, I'm not likely to accept anything long-term though.

I'm a hair guy so that's that's first thing I notice about a girl personally but it varies from person to person.

In all honesty though feeling good about how you look should be your first concern. So do whatever you think makes you look and feel good when you go out. If you have confidence in yourself that will definitely get you some attention. Besides if a guy is only interested in your looks he isn't worth your time.

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As the person above me said it changes from person to person, but i know a lot of people that look at the eyes (face area) first and then the body. In my case i don't like big tits, i prefer a woman with a more balanced body, I really dig clear eyes , and a nice ass doesn't hurt too.

May I ask about hair? I have trichotillomania, which is an anxiety disorder that causes me to pull out my hair. So far, it has only gotten as far as my eyebrows and eyelashes. I have barely any eyelashes and a bald spots on my eyebrows. Because of this, I am very self conscious... I've heard that long eyelashes are pretty and surely I would love to have some, but I don't. Is that a turnoff for guys? Please be honest, as I'm sure I could use some incentive to make a stronger attempt at stopping myself.

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"Everything is okay in the end. If it's not ok, then it's not the end."

"I'm tired of all the nonsense about beauty being only skin-deep. That's deep enough. What else do you want; an adorable pancreas?" - Jean Kerr

When I said 'death' before 'dishonor', I meant alphabetically.

Imagine what would happen if there were no more hypothetical situations.

It probably is, yes. Though, it depends how bad it is...

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Being the lazy person that I am, I'm not likely to accept anything long-term though.

It's only been going on for a couple of years, so I don't think it's gotten that bad yet. I would like to think I'm rather attractive besides that, though, so maybe I still have a chance. l'll keep working at it and maybe I can fix myself. Thanks. ^_^

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"Everything is okay in the end. If it's not ok, then it's not the end."

"I'm tired of all the nonsense about beauty being only skin-deep. That's deep enough. What else do you want; an adorable pancreas?" - Jean Kerr

When I said 'death' before 'dishonor', I meant alphabetically.

Imagine what would happen if there were no more hypothetical situations.

Well, eyebrows and eyelashes aren't that necessary. As long as the bald patches aren't in weird places like e.g. in the middle of the eyebrow, it shouldn't be that bad.

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Being the lazy person that I am, I'm not likely to accept anything long-term though.

That's exactly where it is. XD But thank you for answering my questions. I might even have more later, unless I magically decide to try coming up with answers on my own. I value other's opinions more than what's good for me, so thanks again. An honest answer is always gratefully received. ^_^ I'm usually very introverted though, and recently started trying to open up a bit more, so I like to be well prepared. Knowing the enemy, if you will. Not that boys are the enemy, just a... hurdle. Oh, well.

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"Everything is okay in the end. If it's not ok, then it's not the end."

"I'm tired of all the nonsense about beauty being only skin-deep. That's deep enough. What else do you want; an adorable pancreas?" - Jean Kerr

When I said 'death' before 'dishonor', I meant alphabetically.

Imagine what would happen if there were no more hypothetical situations.

<I'm female>

Tried stick-on eyelashes? I mean not those horrible full ones, but the ones that are sold in small patches, which you paste between the real ones? My friend did something like this and it looked pretty and natural. Probably won't help with the disorder, but maybe you'll feel more confident?
Didn't try it myself, though.

As to make-up.. well, when once i put on some eyeshadow, my boyfriend asked whether i felt sick and wanted to lay down.. so i guess they don't notice it so much..

Question to boys - distraughthallelujah asked about eyelashes, but what do you think about bitten nails (not to a horrid state) and messy hair (tried..everything) ?
Seems like a question someone wouldn't answer honestly face-to-face.

Personally nails aren't a big deal for me. I do prefer manicured nails but it isn't something I freak out over if somebody is a nail biter.

As for the messy hair I can understand. I have problems with my hair it's really stubborn. Honestly it depends on the extent of its messiness but I would probably understand your situation since I have the same problems.


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For guys:

What is up with the peacocks? Are they/you personally really like looking good or over the top, or just like the attention that comes with it?

Ah the metrosexuals...I'd like to know about that as well. Here in Florida it seems like a big Spanish/Cuban deal.

I by no means am a peacock, but dont like looking like a slob in public...something about people of walmart always sticks in the back of my head.

Personally, I really didn't like it when my friend asked me out. We were best friends and all, and he went and asked me if I wanted to be with him, and when I said no, he just didn't talk to me anymore. Thanks man, that's really nice and all. I mean was all the friendship just for the sole purpose of asking me out in the end without considering "no" for an answer? AND he made me feel uber-guilty. Hated it.

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A sadist? What? Pshhh!
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Only a little.
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Okay, I am.

Agree with Felinz. If you're too shy just talk a little (friendly-like), just to break the ice and see if that person likes you or not. But building friendship for the sake of asking out? That's a big, fat : NO
Plus, if you're categorized as "friend" you may remain a "friend" in that person's mind.