I wouldn't think a proposal is something worth being told and laughed about. My friends and relatives never told me about how they proposed. They just told us that they were getting married and that was all.

I agree with Terpsichore. Casual and simple is the best. No need to make it all that dramatic. At least I am not the type of person who's interested in that. I have never thought of getting married and probably won't ever. But I would prefer knowing fully what's going on in a relationship. That's why I'd rather propose myself rather than receiving a proposal when I don't want.

To me, marriage happens when both parties have been with each other for a while and think of each other as a natural part of their lives. Therefore a decision to get married is certainly not all that dramatic as some imagine it to be.


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what they carry in their bag, how much they weigh, what do they do in their own time unless they tell you and what are they wearing underneath...

@guys, what makes a guy run the other way even if they like a girl from the beginning?

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Lack of self confidence, usually. If you lack self confidence, you might think it's teasing, or just not be able to easily talk to someone.

The other possibility is changing opinions. At the beginning, it's all first impressions. Sometimes as you find out more about the person, you find them less attractive, or you might hear about how they've acted towards friends in the past.

Edit: There's also the chance of a misunderstanding. A guy might not be aware the girl's feelings, and evading to avoid embarrassment.

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What about being clingy?

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Being boring, and acting silly and airheaded.
I like girls who are smart, not ones who think their only job in life is to act as decoration.

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what x0mbiec0rp said.
and certain turn-off situation such as the girl being attached, got a baby, married/engaged, got a really bad reputation/attitude/character but most of them time..lack of self-confidence. It should also be quite easy to tell if a guy likes you (even if he turn the other away)

Lol, i actually did this once
because the girl actually got a thing for playing hard to get.
At that time i'm was already quite "tired" from another relationship and not in a mood to play games with her, so i turn her down. Later, I heard something about her being arrogant and love to play with another guys feelings. (had to put up with her and not getting anything back)

After recalling back now, she's not that hot, childish, dumb and annoying. God, I was lucky.

clingy is fine to me..but most guy would hate that, either give them some space or there won't be any space for you

I don't mind being asked and answering what I carry in my bag, what I do in my own time and even what I wear underneath. I have absolutely no problem answering the first three questions. As to the last one, it's the way they ask that matters. They should expect "I don't want to answer" and being ignored if they are with an attitude trying to insult.

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This. I have an especially bad time with noticing that a girl is interested in me. All the panty flashing and sex talk in the world won't get me to realize they are interested in me unless they actually say they like me.

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There are also mixed signals... or so we can think -_-

some girls are hard to figure out... nevertheless sometimes you just have to throw yourself in the pool and hope is not empty O.o

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Maybe this was already asked but I'm too lazy to read the whole thread...so...Why do girls like Yaoi? They seem to be crazy about it.
Is BL that exciting from a girl's perspective?

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Can't say why all girls like it. I'll tell you why I like it, though.

- Two guys in a yaoi manga seem equal in their relationship in a way that is pretty rare in most romance mangas about guy-girl couples. Also, they're not as bound to gender role stereotypes, so you'll see a range of characters with personalities that are not onesidedly masculine or feminine. (Granted, there's a whole category of yaoi mangas that replicate all the alpha-male/damsel-in-distress cliches of shoujo, but I'm not into those.) I also like yuri for this reason, but as a straight girl, it's easier to empathize with characters who are attracted to men. Also, in real life women already do a lot of things that men do, so I feel more appreciation for male characters who break with tradition and embrace their feminine side. I find this sexy in real life, too.

- In many yaoi mangas, romance develops between people who were friends or acquaintances for a long time. They know each other's faults and weaknesses, but still like each other for who they really are. Also, as friends, they seem to like each other as people first and foremost, so their love seems more geniune. (This is probably one of the reasons fangirls like to "slash" shounen manga characters. You can't deny that there are a lot of deep emotional bonds between the main characters of most shounen mangas.)

- A good number of yaoi mangas are about college students or adults, which is more interesting to me than the usual high school romance. I haven't found many of these outside yaoi. Not enough josei/seinen romances seem to be translated.

- Two words: YOSHINAGA Fumi. I started reading yaoi because of her. Although awards don't mean everything, she has received recognition winning the Kodansha Manga Award and the Tezuka Osamu Cultural Prize, and her talent shines through whatever she writes. I didn't "get" yaoi until I found her mangas.

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Reading: Kingdom, Sangokushi, Historie

-Unlike most hentai, the stories are written and marketed for women.
-A good yaoi has a plot and strong characters. For me, I really don't care half so much about the smut.
-There is a huge variety of yaoi out there, so there is a lot for readers of different tastes. Whether you like pretty boys or manly men, you'll find both and everything in-between.
-Sexy guys. Two sexy guys..
-If you aren't too afraid, try visiting the yaoi/yuri forum. You might find a bigger variety of answers there just by lurking threads.

I have to ask: Do guys like yuri and/or the RL equivalent?

Thx for your answers I understand now...thought the main reason are the good-looking guys but seems there is more to it.


As for me I don't read Yuri. I'm not interested in girlxgirl relationships. It's nothing to get excited about. Maybe because girls naturally are considerate towards each other...they are certainly more sensitive than guys...that's why there's nothing special to see in girls love.
But if they happen to have GID (gender identy disorder)...that is another story^^

yuri is fine. Although when I read it, which isn't too often, its usually to cleanse my pallet of bad shoujo, where one or all of the female characters refuse to grow a spine. Seriously. After I finished Hot Gimmick I went on a slight yuri bender. It stopped after maka maka. bad art and no story.

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