I think it's possible for some people. Not for me. I love physical contact(not necessarily in a sensual/sexual connotation. Yes, I'm a guy that likes to cuddle).
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It might be possible for others, my sister met her boyfriend online and they have met up and stuff and their relationship is going good though I still think my sister is way too trusting. I personally don't believe in falling in love online, face to face interaction is quite important from me as I don't trust people very easily. Maybe you can develop a crush or a certain amount of liking but for me love can only be established after having met the person in real life and talked to them etc in the real world.
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It might be possible for others, my sister met her boyfriend online and they have met up and stuff and their relationship is going good though I still think my sister is way too trusting.
My boyfriend's little sister met her boyfriend during high school in an online game. She lives in California and he lives in Florida, so it's a little unsettling that he could have turned out to be some 40 year old pervert. Before he visited her for the first time, we googled the hell out of that guy to make sure he wasn't some creepy old dude.
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I believe it's possible and I do believe you can make good friends with people online. Heck, I made friends with someone on the other side of the world thanks to the internet. Unfortunately, he died earlier this year (he was only a year older than me too!) and I was completely devistated. I felt like I lost a really close friend I had known for years. I cried myself to sleep for a good month. So yeah, I definitely believe it is possible.
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Yes I believe. I know some people personally and have heard of others that fell in love online. Some are missing, some are dead, some didn't take it anywhere and the rest are married.
When I say I believe, I mean I believe that anyone who doesn't know or try to control there feelings are the only ones who get caught up in all of this stuff. Meaning people in denial, lonely, desperately seeking another half, are completely open to love or falling in love, or those who believe in love at first sight and all the like. As well as people who say it won't happen to me I believe are at risk.
I only say that because all the people I know who fell in love online somehow fell into at least one of these categories. Maybe the person reading this doesn't, but then I wasn't throwing out names here. And I said I BELIEVE. 95% of the things people believe in is nonsense or untrue, so my statements here are not solid proof of anything. It is only my opinion based on a little experience.
But I also believe that communication with another person is how a person grows closer to another person. Whether it be through internet, letter writing, telephone or face to face. So if you can become friends with someone over the internet, it is possible that you can crush on a person because how they seem appeals to you. But then you would still have to be consciously or unconsciously wanting or hoping for a relationship. Not with said person, but just in general. A person who is truly (not just saying it because they are in denial)not interested, not looking, or who disagrees with internet love or crushing wouldn't find it because they don't want it. Everyone else is at risk.
Side Note: I'm sorry if I am making this sound like some sort of disease, really I'm not trying to. lol
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When I say I believe, I mean I believe that anyone who doesn't know or try to control there feelings are the only ones who get caught up in all of this stuff. Meaning people in denial, lonely, desperately seeking another half, are completely open to love or falling in love, or those who believe in love at first sight and all the like. As well as people who say it won't happen to me I believe are at risk.
I only say that because all the people I know who fell in love online somehow fell into at least one of these categories. Maybe the person reading this doesn't, but then I wasn't throwing out names here. And I said I BELIEVE. 95% of the things people believe in is nonsense or untrue, so my statements here are not solid proof of anything. It is only my opinion based on a little experience.
But I also believe that communication with another person is how a person grows closer to another person. Whether it be through internet, letter writing, telephone or face to face. So if you can become friends with someone over the internet, it is possible that you can crush on a person because how they seem appeals to you. But then you would still have to be consciously or unconsciously wanting or hoping for a relationship. Not with said person, but just in general. A person who is truly (not just saying it because they are in denial)not interested, not looking, or who disagrees with internet love or crushing wouldn't find it because they don't want it. Everyone else is at risk.
Side Note: I'm sorry if I am making this sound like some sort of disease, really I'm not trying to. lol
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I think you can. I mean if you start liking them BEFORE you see them aren't you liking them for who they truly are?
A friend of mine fell in love with a guy online and they date for three years.
He lived in England and she lives in Canada.
They were both adults and every four months she would go over for a week or two and then four months later he would come over for a couple of weeks.
He ended up being extremely possessive and they broke up eventually.
But I mean that's understandable when you barely see each other in the day to day life.
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A friend of mine fell in love with a guy online and they date for three years.
He lived in England and she lives in Canada.
They were both adults and every four months she would go over for a week or two and then four months later he would come over for a couple of weeks.
He ended up being extremely possessive and they broke up eventually.
But I mean that's understandable when you barely see each other in the day to day life.
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I think you can. I mean if you start liking them BEFORE you see them aren't you liking them for who they truly are?
Not necessarily, I mean one of the problems with the whole falling in love online thing is "how do you know they are who they say they are", so what if you fell in love with a dude who everytime he talked to you made up random shit about himself, what he did during the day, what he is like etc and that imaginary person that he has made up is the one that you start liking. So then you are not liking them for who they truly are you? I guess people have to be quite trusting then don't they.
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Not necessarily, I mean one of the problems with the whole falling in love online thing is "how do you know they are who they say they are", so what if you fell in love with a dude who everytime he talked to you made up random shit about himself, what he did during the day, what he is like etc and that imaginary person that he has made up is the one that you start liking. So then you are not liking them for who they truly are you? I guess people have to be quite trusting then don't they.
rly good point, the thing about online relationships is you can never know who it is your chatting with. It might as well be the FBI as the girl of your dreams.
Besides, in my oppinion chatting with someone is a little too weak to start a relationship. You need more contact than that.
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Not necessarily, I mean one of the problems with the whole falling in love online thing is "how do you know they are who they say they are", so what if you fell in love with a dude who everytime he talked to you made up random shit about himself, what he did during the day, what he is like etc and that imaginary person that he has made up is the one that you start liking. So then you are not liking them for who they truly are you? I guess people have to be quite trusting then don't they.
rly good point, the thing about online relationships is you can never know who it is your chatting with. It might as well be the FBI as the girl of your dreams.
Besides, in my oppinion chatting with someone is a little too weak to start a relationship. You need more contact than that.
But to make sure the person isn't a 50 year old man... there are many ways to find out. You just need a webcam and phone. ;D
I'm going to fly over next month to visit my net friend for a week. I've never met her in person, but I'm still staying over at her place for that one week. I know she is who she says she is because we've cammed and talked on the phone. Now, things about HERSELF... that I can never be 100% sure about, but I trust her. It isn't even fair to hold this against online relationships, because the same can be said about IRL friendships - people can lie about themselves in person too. This is why honesty and trust is an important factor to ANY type of relationship.
SO YES.
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Yes I think so, but mostly you just fall in love with the person you think he/she is(the person in your imagination) and not the real person.
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I think you could as least like the person.
As for "how do you know they are who they say they are", how do you even know the people you physically know ain't just putting up a front? I think it's practically the same in terms of you never really know anyone, it might just be harder to fully know someone you can't see before your eyes. Kind of like, "seeing is believing"? Besides, haven't any of you fell in love with someone you knew face-to-face just to realize they weren't the person you thought they were? I just think that no online relationship can be complete without ever meeting. When you're in love, we tend to glamorize or create this image of what we see as perfection, so real love is the one after you're pass those stages of lovey doveyness and see more of that person's true self. xD ha, ranting, but hey, I think it could be possible with time and effort and all that. x3
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As for "how do you know they are who they say they are", how do you even know the people you physically know ain't just putting up a front? I think it's practically the same in terms of you never really know anyone, it might just be harder to fully know someone you can't see before your eyes. Kind of like, "seeing is believing"? Besides, haven't any of you fell in love with someone you knew face-to-face just to realize they weren't the person you thought they were? I just think that no online relationship can be complete without ever meeting. When you're in love, we tend to glamorize or create this image of what we see as perfection, so real love is the one after you're pass those stages of lovey doveyness and see more of that person's true self. xD ha, ranting, but hey, I think it could be possible with time and effort and all that. x3
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I've known many couples that meet online. I do think it's a good, cheap way of meeting new people around the world and a online relationship can turn into a physical relationship really easy.
I'm personally someone that is a little weary of people I meet online. Because people all the time have a completely different online persona. I know a guy that in real life he's nice,quite and calm but online he's very talkative and quite tacky.
People do fall in love with movie stars, characters from books and inanimate objects, so I would have to say yeah it is possible to meet someone online and fall in love. But for me frankly I wouldn't say I "love" someone until I meet them in person because you never know if you'll physically be attracted to them.
I'm personally someone that is a little weary of people I meet online. Because people all the time have a completely different online persona. I know a guy that in real life he's nice,quite and calm but online he's very talkative and quite tacky.
People do fall in love with movie stars, characters from books and inanimate objects, so I would have to say yeah it is possible to meet someone online and fall in love. But for me frankly I wouldn't say I "love" someone until I meet them in person because you never know if you'll physically be attracted to them.
