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Do you owe your parents for the gift of life?

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Do you owe your parents for having you and taking care of you when you were growing up?
Yes - W/out them I wouldn't be here, so I should do everything I can to pay them back
Yes - I will take care of them when they are older, but right now I am my own person
No - I am my own person, I will take care of them out of the goodbess of my heart, but I don't feel obligated to
No - Screw them, I didn't ask to be here. They made me themselves and they should be responsible for me, not the other way around.
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11:15 am, Dec 17 2009
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of course i owe those 2 beautiful people, I owe them my life and therefore am forveer indebted to them. smile I'd love to take care of them i mean its the least i can do

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Sorinozuka
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11:18 am, Dec 17 2009
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I'm thankful for my parents because... without their money (and love), I'll be dead by now. I was pretty sick as a child, so I was often taken to the hospital for treatments and surgeries... and of course they spent tons of money with that. If they didn't love me, they could've just given up on me back then. eyes But yeah, I'm thankful. I don't want to live here right now (I still live at home) but I'm moving out next year. When they do get old, of course I'd welcome them to my home and take care of them. I'm just doing what they did to me when I was a child.

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11:22 am, Dec 17 2009
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I don't know.
I feel obligated to take care of them, but it's not really sincere.
I wish I didn't feel obligated to.

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12:04 pm, Dec 17 2009
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you cant just say you gonna take care of them when they are old lol
say your married and he/she hates your parents ... what then?
and when they start shitting all over and are not able to even get dressed on their own you will more than one time wish you did not bring them into your house and start looking for a nursinghome
and in most developed countrys ppl get pensions when they stop working[not alot but they should be able to live somewhere]

and why would they wanna live with you
they have managed for 30+something years after the kids moved out why would they wanna move in with their children
its like the biggest FAIL there is

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Namehage
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3:32 pm, Dec 17 2009
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They took care of me when I couldn't take care of myself.
If it gets to the point where they can't take care of themselves, I will certainly return the same gift.

@TaoPaiPai - Most octogenarians (and older) don't want to move in with anyone again because they've been on their own, but it becomes a matter of necessity if they won't or can't take care of themselves any longer. My grandmother wouldn't hardly eat anything if my father's family wasn't there to make sure she got enough food. It's hard for her to move around, take a bath, etc. She needs the assistance, whether she desires it or not. Eventually most older people come to terms with the fact that they don't have the abilities they did when they were younger.

Also, taking care of your parents doesn't necessarily mean that you personally have to do it. It may come down to needing hospice care, but you can at least make sure that they are well taken care of, even if you aren't the one doing the direct caring.

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3:44 pm, Dec 17 2009
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They took care of me my whole life, so of course I will take care of them when they can't on their own. Though they do say the only reason they brought me in this world was to have someone take care of them when they get old...at least they made it clear. I probably won't be living in the same house as them though, since I'm a girl and my parents will marry me off to someone, so my younger brothers will probably be taking care of them more, but that time is far from now.

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3:52 pm, Dec 17 2009
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I'll definately take care of them when their older, if something happens to them I would consider it my fault, but my great grandma raised me since I was 1, so I feel more obligated to her, but she died when i was 7 so I won't be able to pay her back. Now I live with my grandparents, because they need help, so I'm used to all of that suff! It's not so bad, really.

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3:53 pm, Dec 17 2009
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yeah...... ill take care of them when they get old

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3:53 pm, Dec 17 2009
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I don't think you owe them for being born, after all they could treat you badly. I feel obligated to them because they were good parents. I think you owe them for the parenting, not being born.

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3:59 pm, Dec 17 2009
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I believe i owe my thanks to whatever being it was from which we evolved. Kudos to you oh great being.

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5:23 pm, Dec 17 2009
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I didn't ask to be here. So I wouldn't say I owe them for the gift of life. But I'm really glad that I was born into my family. I have wonderful parents and I will take good care of them when they get old. smile

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11:38 pm, Dec 28 2009
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I don't owe them for bringing me here, for I certainly didn't ask for it, but I due owe them for taking care of me. Would you feel obligated if you had parents who bore you and then left you for dead (like if they didn't want you)? I think you owe whoever took care of you until you were old enough to live on your own. And by 'took care of you' I don't mean just who housed you and fed you. Some children are abused by their caretakers. I mean whoever loved you and provided for you to the best of their ability, like the ideal parent should.

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4:19 am, Jun 26 2013
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I'm a good person at heart but I won't take care of my parents because I feel obligated to. I'll look after my Mother until the end of her days because I love her. I'll cut ties with my Father because I hate him and he's the very definition of a "small man". Sure he's my biological Father but I don't have to love him. I'd be happy if he died but I'll ask him to conveniently do it after they're divorced because I don't want my Mother getting burdened with his debts. And what did he spend it on because for such a big debt to exist and our family not being any better off for it. Oh wait, junk food, cameras and a new posh car which he doesn't even need.
What will I do if he comes crawling back to me in 20 years time?
Make him grovel and beg for forgiveness then slam the door in his face. eyes

Edit: Whoops, didn't realise the thread was so old dead

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