A bouquet.
But not a boring pre-done arrangement.
I love roses so more is better <3

I don't give flowers though.
I give chocolate and kisses.

Tsubaki21, I have an extremely short temper. My father had a very short temper and he was a woman beater as well as a child abuser. My sister has the same short fuse as me and our father and she hits her son often in addition to threatening him at least twice a day. When I was 13, I hit a girl in anger and that is why I am punishing myself by not getting into a relationship. Do you still think I am being hard on myself? Those girls didn't know what kind of person I really am or what I may become in the future. I always told them that they were wasting their time with me and they could do much better. Had they known everything about me, they would have never even bothered with me in the first place, unless it was to call me trash or something along those lines.

If me being alone my entire life means I never hurt anyone and everyone other than me is happy, then that is okay with me. The potential for me being the same as my father is too high to risk the well being and happiness of anyone. I keep getting told that I am a lot like him and it scares me to no end because of who and what he is.

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Never doubt your reasons.
Never doubt your cause.
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I voted Single Rose (and I'm a Girl) but in reality I wouldn't want a rose. At least not a red or pink one. Too cliche at this point. I like sunflowers though!

You aren't your father. There are so many abused kids who think that way and they are wrong.
After all, you recognise it in yourself, yes? Therapy exists for people who are abusive/abused. You deserve to be happy too, just like everyone else.

Sorry for being off-topic, but it's sort of a sensitive subject with me. :'(

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Sorry for going OT after this, but just let me say that I prefer an orchid to a rose. I love orchids! But if someone wanted to give me roses, yeah I'd pick a single rose, it's more romantic. Plus it's kind of sexy if it's left on your pillow...

Ok now I'm going to go OT, sorry in advance.

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KazukiNezan, I agree with Terpsichore. Everyone deserves to be happy; since you know about your issues you are at an advantage, you can seek help and should seek it. Counseling can really help you. Sorry if this sounds didactic but this means a lot to me too. Let's just say that something like this was an issue for me also, I was sexually (if not violently) abused as a child and that kind of messed with my head, for a long time I thought I'd never have kids because I had this bizarre feeling I'd end up abusing them too (even though I am not and never was interested in kids that way, I just had an irrational fear of hurting them b/c of my own experiences). I was also clinically depressed and suicidal for many years as I tried to deal with these issues.

BUT! Needless to say I am now a lot better, happier than I've ever been, everything's coming up roses. And why? Because I finally grabbed the hydra of my fear by it's many necks and killed 'em off one by one - by getting counseling, therapy and really working hard to change myself and to change the way my mind works. It paid off in SPADES. I am now in love with someone and am looking forward to starting my own family and having kids. Now I know that I am not the same as my past abusers, I know that I will cherish my kids and not let anything happen to them. Basically, I discovered my own normality. Yay, I'm normal! Lol.

Just because I was messed with doesn't mean I should end up a mess. Right? No one has the power to decide who I am except myself. And I am damn well going to be a decent, strong and happy person. To hell with anything that gets in the way of that! (Including my own fears!)

One has to be brave in the end. You have to battle it out like a warrior, I'm serious - your mind is the battlefield and you are fighting for your own territory, NEVER GIVE IT UP, never surrender to the ghosts of your past or the demons of your present. Victory will be yours if you keep fighting for your better self. That courage will become the single most beautiful thing in your life, and that victory will open the gates to a life of happiness unlike anything you had ever thought possible. That will be your reward.

Ok, sorry for the overlong preachy stuff, I'll stop now.

If he really wants to be unique, look for something like a 'leather' or 'suede' rose.
The bloom never fades, but the symbolism is the same.
If the shop doesn't do it for you, buy a tiny bit of rose essence and put a drop on the suede flower.

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If you've ever thought or said "Nice Guys finish last" and really meant it, then you should probably read this LJ post by DivaLion. It's incredibly insightful whether you're male or female.

From a bumper sticker I like:
"If you're gonna ride my ass, at least pull my hair."

I'm a guy and I chose a singe rose. If it was a bouquet, it would be hard to keep it safe from harm, bring it home, and keep the flowers alive. Plus, people would stare

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Lalala~

Screw roses.
I'd rather have a potato.
As for why, I will refer you to this little bit of true wisdom



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Do but despise reason and science,
The highest of all human gifts -
Then you have surrendered to the Devil
And must surely perish. - J.W. von Goethe

I'm a girl and I think a single rose is better, held between a guy's teeth... It's really cute... xD
Not only does it shut them up for the time being, but it also forces them to communicate with their eyes instead of their mouths.

Besides, I don't see how a guy could hold a whole entire bouquet between his teeth without breaking his jaw or covering his face with all those petals. Or sneezing.