do people maybe in your clique say the word "gay" in a derrogitory way that may offend yourself or others tell me your opinion how does that make you guys feel or is it the fact that you dont care either way?
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If someone in my close group of friends were homophobic, I'd slowly but surely ease them out of my life. Be in truth, i'd have prob never been friends to begin with.

my very very small school has some guys out of the closet, at least to their friends, and the bigger half of us is very supportive.
we do have some very closed minded people, but usually someone shuts them up.
those out of the closet, r usually people i deeply respect, and consider some of them friends, so once i threw a tantrum , and lectured a few of my moronic mates (in screams) about the issue.

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I have a few, I'm not homophobic or do I have any kind of phobia in that kind of category. I'm just a girl who has a deadly fear of bugs.

Being gay doesn't really change anyone, it's part of them as a person.
If you can't accept that, you can't accept anything else.

I don't lecture anyone about this. Since everyone should know better already.
But inside, I do get annoyed.

I chose "angry but too passive to confront them".

I really hate it when someone uses it in such a derogatory way. I have a homophobic friend who doesn't support his gay brother. He's ashamed of him; he hates him just for the fact that he's gay, and I think that's why he grew up to be so homophobic. He thinks all gay men are out to get him. When he makes insensitive comments about his brother in front of me I just raise an eyebrow and look away.I already talked to him about it, but he never stops doing it. I guess old habits die hard, and I don't think he'll change just from me talking to him. The sad thing is, homophobic tendencies aside, he's a very nice person...so well, I just can't get myself to stop being friends with him. I just try and look the other way...

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My friend a big homo. I cll him that and we laugh. When we first met he was preturbed that I would say "this thing was gay" or "stop being a fag" or things like that. But as we got to know each other, he realized that I treated him like any other person, gay or otherwise. There are people who treat others differently and say the correct PC thing and you can always tell that they are insincere and shallow people who are just playing by "the rules".

I am a sincere person and like my friend only look down on people for their stupidity and lack of common sense; I have no time to consider race, sexual orientatio, gender, handicaps in my day to day life. I sincerely view everyon as equaly (except stupid people, but people of all races, sexual orientations, gender and whatnot can be stupid).

More inportant than the word is the person using the word and what they mean by it.

I have called one of y friends an N-word before in conversation, but he was ok with it and didn't bat an eyeash because he knew who I was as a person, same goes for my gay friend, whom I have called a big queerbo and a fancy little bitch on a few occassions (resulting in us both laughing and him pretending to punch me in the stomach and we eneded up wrestling on the ground and everyone at work thought I was gay after that).
So I hope I don't offend anyine here with my forward speech

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This hasn't come up with friends, but my kids picked it up at school - I honestly don't think they even thought about what they were saying, it was just "the latest slangy thing" they heard other kids saying. I didn't get mad, but I did basically tell them, "It really bothers me to hear you use "gay" as a negative term" and they stopped right away. We do know some homosexuals (for example, the owners of the local comic shop are a lesbian couple, very cool people) and my boys don't seem to have any negative feelings towards homosexuals, so I really don't think they really knew what they were saying.

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Not outraged, but I do confront people if they're obnoxious enough, they mean it in a negative way, and if they're near me... I wouldn't run after someone just to say that they're being an ignorant jerk.

me and my friends in HS used to say it all the time, but it was never in a deregatory way(atleast at my end). i was one of the more open people in my group of friends then, and still kinda get pissed when they say HP sucks now that dumbledore's gay.

on a funny side note, my female cousin used to berate one of her classmates in HS all the time calling him gay and i thought she just didnt like him. Turns out she didn't not like him, she could just tell ( he came out a few years later, and now they're best friends.)

I hardly am friends with any kinds of bastards.
I do nost see a reason why gay would be bad.
However, I do have a personality that affects the
people around me, so I pretty much shape my
own friends passively without them knowing it
which means that my friends get to tolerate stuff.

yup.. me too. In high school (and elementary school), everything was gay Pink was gay. Somebody's shirt was gay. Their shoes were probably gay too. And the gayest was this person that kept opening my locker because she knows my combo...

See see.. it's so rude. I don't say it anymore (except to my brother...) because it's really mean if somebody really is gay. (and I heard I could get sued for saying it..?)

I sometimes don't like hearing it in public... "ew you're so gay, why do you stay up so late to do homework..." pah... I find it sort of immature. But I don't think they'll listen if I tell them to stop...

Too many homophobics with mental problems that just can't seem to get over themselves. If someone’s gay so be it just as long as its clear and they arn't freaks about it and don't start hitting on every person of the same gender around then its perfectly fine.

People don't have to accept it but they will learn to tolerate it if they arn't complete trash.

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adding a whole new side to the gay toleration arguement, has anyone ever been "hit on" by someone of the same gender?

it happened to me once, scared me senseless(i actually had the urge to push the guy and run like hell), and got me to read alot into the whole society/gay thing. overall a good experience

Yes, it was...uncomfortable. But I did get him to introduce me to his (female)friend after I made it clear I'd wasn't playing for the side and if I ever did I thought I could do better.

...shutting mouth right about now...

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I definitely don't support homosexuality, but that doesn't mean I hate homosexuals. Although to my knowledge I haven't interacted with anyone who is gay I do feel that I would act differently around him in the sense that my personal space becomes a bit larger. Other than that I would love him or her just like I would anyone else.