Paramour: An illicit lover, especially of a married person.
Have you been one?
Would you be one under certain circumstances ?
Could you ever go through with it if you had the chance?


I'll throw out some hypothetical situations.

-If you were single, (going with a you a female in this case ) met a guy. Got to know him, but suddenly found out he's married. Would you become a paramour?
What if his married is basically dead, but due to some reason (maybe kids, or financial ties) he can't leave her, would you still pursue this relationship?

- What if (now you're a male ) you met a woman who has an abusive husband (Either verbally or physically), and while trying to be a supportive friend you fell for her. Would you not act on those feelings?

Would you only be a lover to a married person if they had a "valid" reason to cheat. (Maybe they only have sex with their spouse once every other month ... or once a year).


If you really think about all the possible variables is there a case where you could be a paramour or would it never happen?
(-sidenote, heh never. I always think of "never say never")





I know there's a few threads about cheating, this is more ... What would it take for you to be involved with someone cheating on their spouse. (If there were any exceptions to make it okay for you.)
Strictly you're in the mistress/mister/master shoes.

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I don't have much respect for marriage as a whole, but I don't support cheating.
So let's see...
-The other person is brain dead or something - maybe. It'd better be worth it, because there might be too much angst involved.
-The person is abused by their spouse - if ours is a case of true love and whatnot then yeah, otherwise it's not worth the complications.
-If kids are involved in any way - it's a deal breaker.

These are all very hypothetical and very specific scenarios.
Under normal circumstances, I won't consider it.
If that person is still attached to their spouse and not even separated, I see no reason to butt in.
I don't like that sort of half assery.
It doesn't reflect too positively on that person's character, either.

Basically... Never been one and will probably never be.



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Never. If anything is ever going to happen between us in these kinds of circumstances then this guy has some choices to make. He can always:
- divorce regardless of what is holding him back
- wait till spouse dies but that doesn't mean I will
- kill spouse but I will never get with this guy in that case unless it is proven that it was self defense and he gets let off for it

I can't think of any other good reasons. He'd just have to be unmarried, divorced, a widower, or single for this to ever happen. I do not condone cheating and would never involve myself in that with my own knowledge.

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